Have you had a successful encounter in the past days/weeks?
What worked for you, either Mojo-based or otherwise?
For me it’s been a couple of months and I feel like I’m loaded up on possible tools but still haven’t put myself in the situation, so I’m curious what would work if it does happen.
Cheers !
I feel likewise. I have learned so much and intellectually understand what I need to do, but have had few opportunities to practice. I do find I’m taking away important lessons with each physical encounter, though. With meditation, mental health understanding, and bodywork I am much more aware of what’s going on during an experience. I think the thing I’m noticing most lately is how I fall into old habits—both physical and mental—so easily, which I need to replace with practices I’ve learned. I came to this pretty deeply habituated in terms of sexual thoughts and behavior, as many of us might, and it takes work to get out of that. Retraining ourselves to work around unhelpful habits/feelings seems like essentially the task.
Because I’m dealing with years of sexual repression/trauma due to past religious belief, I’m trying to be patient with progress and take the small successes when they come.
I believe what works for you will ultimately be very specific to you.
I have had a few past successes, I think whats best help me is the meditation exercise which helped to dismantle my anxiety before it even kicked in.
I am still early on in the process, however letting my partner know about the issue and talking about really helped. It took the ‘pressure’ off a bit so to speak. Also the mediation side of things has helped, as it takes my mind off the negative thoughts of it not working.
I’ve had a couple of sexual encounters this week with a new partner that I’ve felt really positive about. I think the daily meditation and self-sensate exercises have helped me the most. Before starting Mojo, I started having problems even masturbating by myself because I was so fixated on proving to myself that I could get it up. But spending time alone visualizing good sexual experiences and spending more time feeling my own body has helped me relax into a lot more pleasure. I’m not feeling as panicked when my partner touches me before I’m hard, and I feel more comfortable encouraging them to do that without feeling pressure to respond in a certain way.
Understanding the impact of my inner critic has helped me highlight some of the things that prevent me from being fully present, getting an erection, enjoying sex.
I’m more attuned to what situations result in me having issues, and ive been able to briefly discuss with a partner the fact that sexual encounters can be a problem for me, because of them stressing me out a bit.
All of this has lifted a bit of the pressure, which has allowed me to enjoy recent encounters more.
Last sexual encounter with my partner we ended without penetrative sex and had a great time with other stuff instead like oral instead. I had plenty of negative self talk about past ED that made me want to avoid even trying to go and get a condom. I briefly expressed this to her and although I know it’s hard for her I think she was happy to still be having fun. Our plan is to keep this up for a while and I will try again when I am less self critical
Just starting out, wish me luck
Nananan
I have been listening and trying the tips and tricks out for a week and a half . I think it boost my confidence in terms of getting rid or putting controls on some bad habits however I still don’t have a chance to interact with women in one on one settings so far yet.
The day after I started my subscription I had amazing sex with multiple positions, so that cemented that it is a psychological issue. I’ve had trouble maintaining after that, except for a night where I/we hadn’t tried for a few days prior. That night we had an extended, rock-hard session–but then the night after I couldn’t maintain. Time to read up on the forums here …
Its been slightly past one month since i joined this program. On the third week I had two successful encounters though both of them i got semi flacid along the way but managed to get back to the moment and finished quick, i have avoided trying it out from the 4th week till now despite the fact that am contantly feeling chill from all the practices am doing daily. There is that fear still in where i don’t want to see myself failing which am very sure its the inner critic which is not so easy to deal with… but i have high hope i will get rid of it. I hope my partner was very supportive it cud be easier i think.
I had my first contact in a while last night with my wife. It’s been a busy time with young kids and the time
Of year. I loved my first meditation session yesterday and literally was the most aroused I’ve been with just thoughts for years. Then I dropped the ball. My mind got the better of me. I’m awake and have decided to tell
My partner about this and hopefully try again . It’s been such a long time since I spontaneously just had sex… it’s crazy… but I’m confident that I’m going to get this right through this community
ED caused by Prone masturbation and i can’t keep my penis erect more time,and it feel likes penis width also have decreased and it has become more thin and small
A position that has always worked for me is to get my partner straddle me with me pre-lubed .With her sliding back and forth over me I can’t help but get hard and then your practically in and away I go. It can be restrictive as you can feel like a bit of a one trick pony but it’s a good position for bit of us. She can take a rest too by lying down on me while I do some of the work!
Just starting out!
I have had mixed results. I had four very successful and enjoyable experiences with two different women last weekend, with the aid of viagra. Earlier in the week I was unsuccessful without viagra, same two women.
Scared to step to the next level cause I don’t want to disappoint my partner again
I just signed up recently, so still figuring it out
I’m a virgin and have never struggled getting it up but I now have a girlfriend who I have tried to have sex with twice but can never get fully hard or sustain an erection when with her I don’t feel nervous around her or when I’m fore playing with her I’ve tried some of the exercises taught on here but they don’t seem to work what shall I do?