I’ve recently joined Mojo, but unfortunately for Mojo I won’t be staying around long because I’ve seen a big improvement already! I feel like I’m at 70-80% functionality right now, which is enough to get by for now. I think it’ll improve with time. I think a few things helped. I’ve been in therapy for anxiety for most of my life and I feel I’ve seen so many of the techniques that they don’t work very well any more. I also went on Viagra (sildendafil) for a while but it stopped working for me.
What happened for me was that by joining Mojo it finally clicked in my head that it was psychological and not physical. Even after my Dr gave me a full physical and blood test I doubted them (and I trust Drs usually). Just joining Mojo and watched the intro videos, then looking through the content and courses I suddenly felt supported. There was a group session the next day and I joined up. The group session was amazing. I saw all the people affected and heard their stories. In particular I remember seeing this young, muscular, good looking guy and hearing him briefly talk about his problems made me think “If he’s having trouble then it’s something affecting everyone”. He’s the guy I want to look like but he’s having issues. Also a lot of religious or ex-religious guys. It began hammering home how psychological this is and I felt very supported.
When I first got ED (10+ years ago) I would take 20 mg sildendafil (1 tablet, a low dose) and it would be ok. The ED went away on its own when I got stable with a gf soon later but came back when we broke up 6 years later and I’ve needed sildendafil to have any kind of sex for the last 4+ years. I started feeling broken and my ED got worse, so I upped my dose to 30 or 40 mg (1.5 or 2 tablets, a moderate-lowish dose). I sometimes wouldn’t get hard on that.
Days after my experience on Mojo and I was a rockstar on 10mg (half a tablet) and a few times have been good with no Viagra at all. I’m going to keep a bottle of Viagra in my bedside drawer just so I know it’s there for support, but I don’t need it anymore.
Another thing which helped was a non-SSRI antidepressant. My Dr recommended and prescribed it because it sometime works well for anxiety and doesn’t have the ED side effect which some SSRIs have. The drug is Burspirone. It’s known for being very mild (in some people not working) and having few side effects. I’m not going to push drugs but I’m putting forward the things which I think helped. It takes 2-4 weeks to kick in and I started having more success with ED around week 4 (when I joined Mojo).
I also turned a corner in trusting and loving my gf, and being open with her around about this time. After joining Mojo and seeing the guys being open, I then opened up a little about my issues with my gf and that helped. I didn’t even say much, but that little bit was a lot to me. She also reassured me about how much she enjoys the sex and I actually believed her for once.
I’m pretty active, high stress login hours, gym 3 times a week, but don’t eat as good as I should (time). Medium/slim/athletic build. Overall good health. Mid 30s.
The summarize - Opening up, accepting this is psychological, and accepting myself, really helped. The group session helped a lot. I think buspirone helped a lot too. I didn’t end up doing many of the exercises but I knowing they are there really helped a lot. I’d imagine the visualizing one would help a lot and I’m going to try that one soon to push me further. I think after a few more sessions with my gf where it all goes well without the Viagra I think I’ll improve further.
Good luck everyone and I’ll be here to discuss further for a while.