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Urologists, therapists (including a sex therapist for about 9 months). Both forms of support helped (in different ways) but only somewhat. Still working on this.
I saw a therapist for a month. She wasnāt specialised in sex therapy, but she still helped me with certain misconceptions and unrealistic expectations around sex.
doctors - they just send me home with a viagra/ cialis :)therapists - had a good experience, but I dont necessarily want to overcome all my issues before I have sexā¦ therapy does not directly just address the sexual problems!
I tried getting ED pills, but then stopped myself.
none really, was just struggling with my girlfriend so looked around online and found you
Iāve sorted ED pills out for myself, cock rings, vacuum pumps, prostate massagers. Anything to help. Each one does something small that helps a little bit but nothing ever I can truly rely on as a fool proof reliable thing to help me keep my erections. I was hung up on, if I can just do it everything else will fall into place, but sex is only part physical, Iāve ignored the mental aspects. Iāve struggled from the very beginning of my sensual experiences so have very little confidence in myself and my performance, despite peopleās positive views on me, I have this almost need to beat myself up at the slightest misgiving and ruin the whole experience for myself
A therapist
I have this āself-beatingā up thing too. Almost as if thereās this hidden part of meā¦ this ālittle voiceāā¦ that starts to appear when Iām having sex (sometimes before, sometimes during) and wants me to fail. I know itās a physiological thing. The only person in my head talking to me is myselfā¦ so this thing MUST be solvable.
I have a prescription to an ED med called Levitra, but I donāt want to rely on just medication for this.
Therapist
Iām still working on this but it is comforting to know itās just not me! The real problem is taking all the advice and āputting it to the testā, that alone is still stressful wondering if it will work. And I canāt just try over and over thereās only so many chances, and the thought of failing could be even more devastating after this!
Agreed. Itās going to take time and to get a few times in a row in without a problem to get the confidence backā¦ Itās so hard to talk to someone about it without feeling even worse, especially if itās newā¦ I wish I could be so careless like everyone else! TBH I think a prostitute would help me with these techniques. I know it sounds crazy but I would have so much less anxiety I think!
a therapist.
Agreed. Itās going to take time and to get a few times in a row in without a problem to get the confidence backā¦ Itās so hard to talk to someone about it without feeling even worse, especially if itās newā¦ I wish I could be so careless like everyone else! TBH I think a prostitute would help me with these techniques. I know it sounds crazy but I would have so much less anxiety I think!
No idea
I was looking answer for some of the questions i thought are unique to me. But Mojo has helped me realise that it is not so unique. This is okay. I am better able to accept the problem. And working towards its improvement. Mojo has really helped with the mind and body training to overcome this problem.
I did not
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Urologist, PCP, didnāt help at all. Just told me I didnāt have a physical problem