I don’t want to discourage anyone from their own journey, but i just had my first few sexual encounters after a while and it’s been over a month of using Mojo, along with daily exercising, better diet and eating foods that tend to boost testosterone and libido.
However unfortunately literally nothing seems to work, my girlfriend is amazingly beautiful and I should be as hard as a rock, and yes when she touches me and gives me a blowjob it gets me hard but as soon as it comes to the thought of penetrative sex the mere 15-30 seconds of pause between foreplay, putting on the condom and penetrative sex makes me get soft.
I have tried everything, and everything this app has said, my problem is clearly stress and anxiety but none of the breathing, thinking, meditation or mindful exercises seem to help.
I have no idea what to do anymore, I have invested so much time and money into solving this problem but nothing seems to work.
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It’s all about practice, practice, practice and never giving up. You know your body works perfectly and that it’s just your head you have to get out of. You just need time to learn to trust yourself again. When you go to the gym surely you don;t beat yourself up because you don’t notice any changes after a month? When you were a baby learning to walk you no doubt stumbled and fell over many times but you somehow could see the end game so never gave up until you achieved your goal.
Hang in there and believe in yourself. Imagine it happening and really visualise it and feel what it’s like. You CAN make it happen if you hang in there and be kind to yourself.
Try taking the pressure off by leaving penetration off the table for a while and see how that goes. Even when you get hard, resist for a while until you’ve go your Mojo fully back.
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Thanks a lot for your kind words and motiviation, really appreciate it.
I know it’s a matter of when not if but it’s just tough after doing so much to try prevent it. I just really love my girlfriend and am sick of disappointing her, but I will continue to try, thanks a lot again 
I’d say that, with all due respect, you haven’t given it that long to improve. I’ve been following MOJO for about 9 months and am just starting to see positive changes. Be kind to yourself. You’ll get there, but it might take time.
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i had this happen before with a girlfriend and once i talked to her about this and my problem i was able to hit it on the same day. it was that fear of constantly failing and thinking its not going to work but then once i felt more comfortable with my girl it worked. it’s so hard to get it up when all you have is anxiety so when you can finally calm down it changes everything.
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I can just repeat what others have already mentioned. I have been using Mojo for almost 3 months now. In the beginning, i try to do everything what the app said and i had a lot of failures. Now i figured that i should focus on what is really problematic. For me, it’s the fact that i need to reconnect my body and mind. And i think it takes a couple of months after i had no partner for the last couple of years. I stopped watching porn that put my libido back very hard. For you, i think you need to convince your mind that even if you loose your erection, you can get it back. I thinkit’s called wax and wayne, the main thing is to get hard, wait for erection to go away and get hard again. You can repeat it a 3 times, or limit the time to 15-20 mins. It will help you to overcome your problem. But the most important thing is communication with your partner.
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Yeah thank you, 1 and a half months isn’t enough to solve it probably, I’m glad uou have found what is problematic for you and hope it’s working well for you. Yeah in my case the anxiety hits hard, I know about wax and wane and have done it quite a few times but yeah definetly need more practice. Thanks for the kind words, appreciate it!
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Yeah that’s true, expecting to solve something in 1 month that’s been a problem for a while (anxiety in general not just in this sex sense), thanks for the motivational message!
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Admiteddly yeah solid advice, my girlfriend is quite shy when it comes to these things but thankfully she has been quite loving every time I can’t do it, but again good advice, thank you!
I just wanted to say. There are many ways to please a woman without your dick. Learn to make her cum using other methods. You are not a failure. I am struggling with the same feelings and problems.
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You may want to try a small dose of an ED medicine like tadalafil to build up your confidence. I got some from Hims.com and it works!
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Yeah I have thought of that, that perhaps I just need to use it once to mentally and visually show myself that I can do it to bring my confidence up, just afraid I’ll get addicted to using it everytime then, but perhaps worth a shot, good advice thanks!
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I know how you feel and what you’re going through. I have seen progress and then failure so It really does take time and repitition and you have to stick with it. Talking to your girlfriend about it may help to take some pressure off - just being open that you are working on it and want to please her.
Everyone’s different but for me spectatoring and being in my head is my main issue. It’s hard because you can’t just get out of your head, and can’t just make yourself be calm, even when that’s what you need to do to overcome the problem.
Stick with it, relax and give it time, be open with your girlfriend, and lean on the guys here for support. Your experience is very common and you’re not a failure. The fact that you’re here means you’re a fighter and tackling the issue head on.
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I’ve had issues like this and even without a condom. I’ve recently met someone new and we haven’t gone to the bedroom yet but you’re not the only one with this fear and issue.
My Ed isn’t an always thing when I feel connected to myself in the moment and not in my head I’m fine. Its like I’m forcing myself to have sex instead for letting myself enjoy sex.
I’ve tried taladifil but it still can happen where is doesn’t work if I’m too stress to send the signal. The pill also provides me confidence that if I get hard ill stay hard. Once I’m in, I’m find and just hope PE doesn’t settle in.
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Yeah we seem to have the same issue, just stuck up too much in our heads, it’s really dofficult to enjoy the moment. Thanks a lot for your kind words, means a lot
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Yeah it seems forced more so than wanting it due to past failures it just seems like a task/chore that I want to get over and done with, good to know about the pill,thanks for the message, hope you can get out of your head too!
At least you’re aware that you have anxiety and that it is effecting your life in other ways. It’s the same for me so I’ve started meditating every morning and am really working on overcoming the anxiety I feel. I hadn’t even realised initially that I had anxiety, I just thought that’s how I was until it started getting worse and effecting my erections.
Look for solutions that will work for you and know that your can overcome this form of negativity and just get back to being your true self.
It may take years to get back what you’ve lost. I have been very good at turning my emotions off, and it’s taking years to get used to having them back. Give yourself the grace to learn and grow. Talk as much as you can with your partner as that’s helped me feel ok when things don’t go as planned. This isn’t a linear path. You’re going to have ups and downs. Keep trying!
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