I have tried mojo for about two weeks, after a few days I noticed I was getting morning wood every morning and I didnāt need porn to get rock hard. For me it was the box breathing and the controlling the self critic.
I thought I was ready for sex and started seeing someone and we ended up attempting sex and I thought I would be able to get rock hard after 2 weeks of mojo like I always would solo, but I didnāt. I couldnāt enjoy the moment I wasnāt even nervous, it was like I expected to stay soft and my mind was made, so I didnāt get hard. I then attempted again with her and I got an erection only because I had to really use my imagination but the sensation was nothing.
I try to get a condom and within 15 seconds I lose my erection and we couldnāt have sex.
I feel humiliated and I was so confident mojo would work because of the solo results but the same thing happened and now Iām at my lowest, I know Iāve only tried for 2 weeks and maybe thatās not enough time but this has happened every time I tried sex and Iām at my lowest, before it was depression then culture shock. But Iām much happier now and still cannot get in the mood. Iām 20 years old and I know I donāt have ED but this lack of arousal is tuning my confidence and my hope for finding a romantic partner. Iāve never had a girlfriend and I always see people here confront their problems with their wives but I have nobody and have to rely on one night stands when they happen and the problem has stayed this way for a year.
I really need motivation guys, Iām so tired of not being able to love the people I care, I honestly scared of dating itās exhausting to have to pile school stress, social stress, and now whether I can ever keep a lover because of my erection anxiety? Itās not a mentally healthy way to live. I think I need to have a ready stache of ED pills just so i have an emergency option
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Try focusing on your breathing and the sensations in the moment! Itās hard to get an erection if you are not fully present in the moment because you are worried of what might happen, but believe me itās possible to beat it!
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Progress is still progress. You are working at it. Donāt give up. You might not see it as a win, but youāve gotten farther than you had at the start. Youāve got this!
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ED pills arenāt a miracle drug. They help the blood flow to the penis but if anxiety causes a fight or flight response blood will still flow out of the penis. I struggle with the one night stand problem as well. The thing that works for me is when it seems like its going that way I explain that Iām demisexual and I might not get hard because I need a strong emotional connection to feel sexual desire. This is true because even though I struggle with anxiety during sex, when I have a partner I feel comfortable wonāt judge me I tend to have better erections. Also, a one night stand doesnāt have to be sex but can still be fun. Making out, heavy petting, cuddling. I also ended up getting really good at giving oral because I will try to make my partner climax even if I canātš
. Not sure this is helpful but I hope there is something I shared that you can use in the future.
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Being 20 years old maybe you need just a push in confidence. Have you tried or know anything about peptides (PT 141). Look for info on the webā¦ may be the push of confidence that you need working in conjuntion with the MOJO technic
Honestly, for young single guys, I wonder why seeing a high quality sex worker is still such a taboo thing. A high quality one will attend to your needs, and you may not cum, but youāll likely have a lot of fun and begin to learn how to tune into your body more and becoming more sensitive to the sensations which is what itās ALL about. Getting out our head is absolutely necessary in order to freely explore this amazing sensory playground.
Hey mate, sorry youāre going through this, I understand where you are coming from. Sex isnāt just penis in vagina, itās other stuff too. Just communicate with your partner, enjoy it, do other things, go down on her - whatever, just enjoy each others intimate company.
Until bam, suddenly it will work just fine - especially at 20yo, donāt be so hard on yourself. Women arenāt wired the same way as us men mate.
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