I’ve been using mojo again, this time for the past 6 weeks. I used mojo last year but stopped using it when I thought I got over my performance anxiety, as I had a number of successful sexual encounters. However I ended up going on a bit of a long period until now with no sexual encounters since.
Today I had the opportunity for sex with a woman I really like. This opportunity has been in the makings for awhile. I thought the past 6 weeks of using mojo would make it a successful one but no.
I had issues with penetration and all of a sudden lost my erection and got in my head. I told the girl that I sometimes have performance anxiety and she was really understanding.
However I’m feeling really down at the moment about this encounter. Like this whole app can’t even help my problem.
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Do you think it may be because you really liked this girl and you were anticipating it more compared to your other sexual encounters? Maybe you put too much pressure on yourself
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Actually, you answerd your own question. You have had no sexual encounter for a while. I think you cannot expect it to work everything like you have a regular sex partner and being in practice. Even if you doing Mojo. But i think you can get over the problem quicker than without Mojo.
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Very true, from both comments , thinking I would have no issues after having a long absence of sexual encounters plus liking this woman a lot most likely put too much pressure on myself.
Should I wait or avoid seeing her or try again as soon as possible?
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I think it’s better to discuss it with her and may be involve her to some exercises, such as, sensation focus. I did the same that ask and it turned out bad. She thought i avoid her and also thought she is the reason for that. I said i could solve my own and i started avoiding her believing in the misleading fact that i can quickly solve a my problem that sources from my teen age. She left me after 2 months because i didn’t show any result and i also started being closed because of that.
Sorry for the typos. Long story shorts, if se is supportive, it’s better for your relationship if you share everything with her. If she couldn’t take it, you are probably not a match anyways, but it’ usually the other way around. It’s also a great opportunity to get even closer to each other.
Sorry to ask again, so you didn’t tell her about your issues or didn’t involve her and it turned out bad? You tried to do it yourself and she eventually left?
So in my case I should reach out to her again quickly , tell her everything. And tried to get her involved?
No worries. I did tell her my issues, but i didn’t involve her but just said it would be solved after a while. So the only thing she saw was that I didn’t change for 2 months (it was a remote relationship, only met once a week) and she basically said she didn’t want to continue. I feel like i’d been more open and involved her to some practices and solved the problem together, it would have bonded us more and the problem would have been gone already. Instead, i’m now alone and still trying to solve it on my own…