I’ve been doing the Mojo program for approximately 45 days now… last night I had a date and when it came time to have sex, nothing worked. I couldn’t get an erection and if anything, it felt like I was shrinking? I even took viagra/cialis to get things going and nothing worked.
This is the 4th time this has happened with the girl I was with and I’m absolutely terrified I’m gonna lose her. She’s been so patient and understanding but everyone has their limits… I feel so defeated
I’ve been finding Mojo helpful, also talking with a sex therapist. Dating is a scary thing, I get that. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. It’s important to take to heart what they’re trying to tell us on Mojo, that we must be relaxed for it to work. That sex is not a destination but a journey of pleasure and play, that it’s all a sensual play that is meant to be fun. Don’t making you cumming a goal,not everyone has to cum every time. Invest in giving her pleasure, and really enjoy doing so, be sensual and tender.
Anyway, practicing alone with the app is in a safe space, it’s awhole other thing in applying it in an unpredictable scenario with another person, but I feel it’s just in building confidence in ourselves and discipline in the techniques that we start to apply it, learning to be relaxed and confident.
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Best thing I’ve found is to tell my self this is fun and I’m having fun no matter what happens. I don’t get it right every time and the little nagging voice gets the better of me but telling yourself is like fake it til you make it kinda deal
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My partner and I REALLY like the touch one.
Maybe you and your date need to exchange massages and go from there.
Anytime my partner lets me massages her feet, calves, thighs she’s pretty much ready for sex 20 minutes later. And if I’m not, it’s never really that hard to get her to cum with my hands or a vibrator. If her having and orgasm doesn’t get me hard I just massage a little more then snuggle.
But more often then not by the time she’s a full puddle I’ll at least have enough juice to give it a go.
Try the low risk route and enjoy making her feel good. If you get to join in by the end then bonus. The main thing here though. Is you’ll definitely keep her.