Hey, just wanted to share where I am for anyone in a similar situation. 35YO male. I used mojo for about 6 months but stopped when I started a new relationship. I saw initial results within a month. First time around it really changed my life, give me so much confidence, best erections than I’ve had since I was a horny teenager, and a great sex drive. I told many of my friends about mojo and I wanted to make sure guys to embarrassed to do anything about their ED were aware of how life changing this can be. That said. I always wanted to rely on the safety net of Viagra. Not sure I needed it but I would always take it just in case. On reflection I should have continued the therapy until I was fully confident without it. 6 months into my relationship and issues were creeping in again, and now just over a year into it I’m back where I started, terrified to have sex, with pretty much no sex drive. I did tell my girlfriend about having overcome previous issues when we got together as I wanted to be open about things. She kind of smirked when I mentioned it which made me nervous talking about it again, and I’ve still not broached the subject. I’ve made the step to get back on here today though, and I intend to tell her I’m doing this today.
If you did it once you can do it again! All the best for sticking with it
Good job on getting back here! Why do you think your girlfriend gave you a negative reaction? Was there an actual negative response, or do you think that you read in to much? Maybe she feel a bit uncomfortable about the topic? Anyhow, talking from my own experience I think it’s really good that you let her in and help her to understand that it has nothing to do with her. She might feel that way, but it isn’t. Period.
Something else, if viagra has been a long time friend of yours I understand it need quite some practicing to let go off. Have you talked with your Mojo coach about it? I’ve never tried viagra, but I can imagine it as another layer of complexity to it. Even though you’re a young man who probably don’t need it, I can imagine it feel like a somehow impossible relationship to get out off.
Maybe raise the topic with her again and see how supportive she is. I was upfront about it with my current partner, and I truly feared that she would make fun of me for it.
Instead she was warm and comforting about it, and told me that sex isn’t just about penetration. This mindset really put me at ease, to be honest it is part of the reason I’m here at all.
I think the negative reaction probably comes from a mix of uncomfortableness around the subject, but also I do think there’s generally this (not sure how to phrase this) slight derogatory humour view on ED in society. It’s not really taken to be as much of a real issue as other women’s issues might be.
Being honest, when I came here before. After if seen improvements I was quite openly talking about it in some circles, because it wasn’t affecting me any more I wanted to make it something people I know could talk about it they wanted. But now it is affecting me again i feel very uncomfortable talking about it. I didn’t manage to speak to my GF about it yesterday. Will try today.
Good points on the Viagra. I hadn’t mentioned it to the coach so will do. With Viagra though it only works if you have some sexual arousal in the first place, but right now I might as well eat a smartie for all the difference it would make. For now it’s kind of a non thing until I make a little more progress.