None at the moment
Caring instead of caretaking
Listening and hearing out my partner more.
I know I’m good with small things being direct, but with big problems I find it really hard. I think it’s because I always know I want to break up but don’t want to admit it to myself or hurt their feelings
I need to have some hard conversations work my partner, but I’ve always been a people pleaser and try to keep the peace. But I need to start standing up for and talking care of my own needs as well.
Keeping us both calm and trying not to find someone to blame
I am definitely a caretaker. I need to avoid that and do more caring.
I tend to try to jump to solutions mode right away. I need to stop that.
I need to work on not engaging in the caretaking behaviors mentioned. And to improve about guessing and understanding their needs and expressing my own
Navigating a sense of distance following our first intimate meeting
Devo parlare di piú dei miei bisogni
How to be less conflict avoidant, when there is an issue, and voice my needs more clearly, as needed.
It’s still difficult not to become defensive and corrective, especially when the argument is based on a misunderstanding.
I go right to solutions mode! That really resonates with me.
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I jump easily into the solution mode, before first considering my needs. This sometimes leads to a situation where I feel giving too much and xpecting something back
I sometimes get too emotional
I have a hard time seeing someone’s side sometimes.
Hearing my partner and helping her understand her needs rather than trying to solve them (and I need to do the same for myself)
Understand my needs and feelings in the moment better. So i can express clearly.
I would like to talk more about my sexual anxiety but equally about how she feels about it
And what we can do together