My ex would always get upset when she’d bring up a conflict and I would right away defend myself or just try and explain why she was interpreting something differently than I meant it. She felt like I was disregarding her feelings, so I should try and understand how someone’s feeling before explaining my side. But she also should have done that same thing with me instead of always jumping straight to accusations.
Definitely with family and with my roommate. Just learning how to not get flustered or critical when I want to discuss something that’s bothering me.
With my colleagues at work. Sometimes the stress from work affects my personal life and by that my sex life is not good. I need to change my approach to work-related problems and keep my mind out of them so my girlfriend can get the best of me
Use direct language when confronting my roommate
I need to be caring and not a caretaker
Discussing with my partner about how frequently he masturbates to porn by himself. It makes me feel inadequate and that he is not interested to try and turn me on instead
Plenty of other good fish in the sea!
I need to be more responsible for my own feelings, I make my feelings other people’s problems and that’s not fair. I don’t know how to ask for attention and closeness without it feeling forced So I don’t ask and I find myself being resentful that I’m not getting enough attention. I need to confront my insecurity and be curious again about who this person is that I’m with where they actually are asking them questions. Genuine questions not. How was your day?
I need to give my all when talking and listening. My full attention. I feel sometimes I half arse it and don’t fully commit and I want too
I need to start standing up for myself and not pretending that nothing affects me just to keep the peace and appear easy-going to everyone in my life.
I get so defensive in conflict and immediately think I’m being attacked and I need to defend myself or attack back.
My girlfriend is always blaming my ed on my porn usage. I’m trying to make a change but constantly relapse. She does not trust me and often feels unloved and uncared for.
I need to work on not avoiding perceived conflict. I handle imagined conflict much worse than actual confrontations. This has been an issue for the last year at work where I am avoiding speaking up about how my needs aren’t being met. It’s creating ripples in my personal life from the added stress.
Expressing my needs and not being scared to talk. I need to have more trust that I can talk to my girlfirend becausesometimes I get scared she won’t like my needs, but she loves me and wants to support me and I should remind myself that
Mostly around the journey of getting out of my head and into my body in the bedroom
Voicing displeasure clearly and directly.
Being open about feeling like my needs aren’t being met.
Communicate my feelings and emotions, never I have been an open person, there is always something unsaid, and I have found it’s because, our brain rather keeps finding feeling, emotions and sensations already known, rather that to explore something different(like avoiding conversations that would it in uncomfortable position, but necessary that would be something productive) and that’s where I working on
I need it work more on my insecurities if I want to improve my relationship with my boyfriend and myself
Listening to my partner and not just going into solution mode