What kind of conflict or arguments do you need to work on?

Mostly about different needs in our day to day life, balancing time together, work life and time with friends

Think most of my avoidance of sexual connection due to insecurity & anxiety.

When being challenged on something, I need to actually think about what I need and whether I agree with it or not. I need to be more assertive so that my needs are met, but I need to do it in a way that’s conducive for both me and partner, as opposed to unneccessary escalation.

I need to work on being more active about my needs so she does not feel like she is just asking me to change.

I need to work on not trying to find a solution before my partner clearly states what the need is. Sometimes I want to skip conflict entirely by finding a solution to a problem that hasn’t been defined

Standing up for what I value and letting it be known to others

Pointing out when someone’s in the wrong, and standing up for what I believe in.

Being more open to listening and not assuming their thoughts or feelings. I feel like I rehearse conflicts in my head and when they don’t pan out how I expect I get flustered and don’t know what to say or how to react.

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I have a family member who will do anything to derail this kind of effort at connecting and respectful sharing. They’re not a bad person. But don’t date someone who acts like this with you

even if the sex is great