Mostly about different needs in our day to day life, balancing time together, work life and time with friends
Think most of my avoidance of sexual connection due to insecurity & anxiety.
When being challenged on something, I need to actually think about what I need and whether I agree with it or not. I need to be more assertive so that my needs are met, but I need to do it in a way that’s conducive for both me and partner, as opposed to unneccessary escalation.
I need to work on being more active about my needs so she does not feel like she is just asking me to change.
I need to work on not trying to find a solution before my partner clearly states what the need is. Sometimes I want to skip conflict entirely by finding a solution to a problem that hasn’t been defined
Standing up for what I value and letting it be known to others
Pointing out when someone’s in the wrong, and standing up for what I believe in.
Being more open to listening and not assuming their thoughts or feelings. I feel like I rehearse conflicts in my head and when they don’t pan out how I expect I get flustered and don’t know what to say or how to react.
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I have a family member who will do anything to derail this kind of effort at connecting and respectful sharing. They’re not a bad person. But don’t date someone who acts like this with you
even if the sex is great