I need more intimacy. I also need to ask myself why certain behavior actions trigger me.
She feels upset by a friend of ours. I want to listen and understand why she’s upset
I definitely sometimes get anxious when my partner has negative emotions, I will feel uneasy or irritated. And I will definitely sometimes try to help her ’ fix the problem’ instead of just listening to her needs or helping her find her needs. I have caretaker tendencies that I’m trying to change
I need to open up about my sexual anxiety and my problems
I need to be more open about my feelings. If there is a conflict, I need to be more vocal and supportive. Sometimes being quiet or overly angry during arguments doesn’t help in finding the middle ground.
Too many to list
When my wife and I are both frustrated and tired we get snappy and often rude
When i feel like im not getting my partner’s full attention
I think i can be dismissive of things that she sees as problems. I could be more attentive to her views and show more care when discussing like on the previous slide. I also could do a better job at expressing my goals and setting stronger boundaries so that we are less likely to step on each others toes.
I sometimes conflict my kindness for care but it’s actually caretaking and sometimes feels selfish.
I struggle with my tendency to a be pushover and be the caretaker. So much to the point where expressing my feelings makes me feel burdensome to the other person so I’m learning to be more direct and open.
It is difficult to express my feelings because of fear of being rejected, so I try to avoid talking about feelings
I think I am very naturally a caretaker. Very conflict averse and my immediate reaction is to slays try to avoid the conflict through caretaking and I will sometimes put off my own needs in favour of others because I’m so quick to want to resolve the conflict and that just builds resentment. The biggest fights I ever had were built on resentment that bully up over time due to my caretaking
Constant conflicts regarding parenting styles.
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Ironically, I’ve had issues with how women communicate with me but I’ve never been able to express that because I feel like I’m trying to tell them what to do.
I’ve always tried to avoid conflict and ignored my own true feelings and I’m always left feeling deflated after doing what’s been asked of me
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I’ve aways habitually avoided conflict because I have a bad habit of being overly harsh when I’m angry and my wife is extremely sensitive. So I go into caretaking mode more often than not and always let my own feelings/needs about things go unheard and unaddressed. Which definitely negatively impacts our relationship.
General conflicts as I sometimes shut down and just say enough to keep the peace but don’t solve the issue. We often skirt around the base emotion.