My partner and I have discussed being polyamorous, but we want to make sure that we can both manage stress and have a solid foundation in our current relationship, first.
Part of that has been unpacking why we heart eachother sometimes (we both come from verbally abusive families, and sometimes in stressful situations, we can use tones and words that hurt each other). We both go to therapy and using this app has taught me a lot about deepening our connection.
I also struggle off and on with PE, so sometimes I do feel silly wanting multiple partners like “okay dude you can’t even handle one.” I’ve been able to shake that inner critic voice a bit with this app, or I’m making good progress by just realizing it’s a critical voice. My girlfriend doesn’t really care if I only last a couple minutes most times because I usually try to make her come first some other way. Or we come at the same time. Or I just keep going. But I have found when I’m more open about my needs and we have these difficult conversations, we both last longer. So part of me does feel that just being more open and vulnerable about being poly might also help solve the PE issues. Funny how that works.
Does anyone relate to any of this?