I’ve had very strong sexual fantasies for as long as I can remember. They only got stronger after watching porn in high school. I don’t watch porn anymore, but can still create scenes in my head somewhat easily. I had been feeling guilty about fantasizing, especially if it was girls besides my partner. But this course helped change my mind and realize that my mind is my own safe space where I can imagine whatever I want.
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Not too much and honestly I think partially I’ve been scared to engage in them for feeling dirty and shameful. This has made me more confident to embrace them and use them when necessary.
My partner and I enjoy sharing fantasies and have for a while
I have found before that if I fantasize about what we could be doing then I am not as turned on by what is actually happening and lose my erection.
I’d like to practice being in my fantasy director state more often, especially when I’m passing time or someplace other than my bed.
I used to fantasise a fair bit. Now not very often, as we have gotten older . You know nothing note worthy will ever happen so you just stop thinking about fantasies and focus on reality.
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They’re not a huge part yet, but I think there’s potential for them.
I wish it was more a part
Not much even privately - but will explore!
Fantasies are a relatively small part of my sex life. I don’t think I’ve really allowed myself to fantasize while having partnered sex and porn is so much easier and vivid than using my imagination when I masturbate. Oddly I either have anxious vanilla sex without fantasy or pretty wild kinky bdsm sex. Involving more fantasy could be a great middle ground.
I have used them previously during sex to stay hard but mostly use them while wanking (don’t watch much porn)
Felt like they were way too taboo & I should be focused on my partner (which puts added pressure on me to perform). This course made me realize that fantasizing isn’t inherently bad, it doesn’t make me less connected to my partner & if it helps me feel more present & connected, I should be all for it.
I fantasize fairly often about having sex with boys I fancy, about the things we would do and about how good would they be. Sometimes it may create an expectation that may never get fulfilled but I need to learn that that’s ok
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I fantasize all the time. Usually they don’t work as much as they used to. However, this exercise has helped reignite it a bit.
I fantasize often. But now I can potentially use those fantasies into a positive. For me, that’s tough to overcome.
I felt like my fantasies were a waste of my sexual energy, but now I feel like I should lean into more and harness it into more sexual energy
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They’re there, but I don’t use them often. I’ve got a couple I go back to but I can try to switch it up more now
I only ever use my fantasies when masterbating, I’ve never tried fantasising with my partner because I’ve felt there’s too much going on, but I’ll try it
My wife asked me about my fantasies early in our relationship and we shared a few. She was very into the idea of doing them with me…but it never went anywhere.
Kinda killed the mood on fantasies for me. Probably no real reason other than miss communication. Might just be time to circle back to the conversation.
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Not a big part of my life. I have sexual fantasies but have never talked to a partner about them