I want them to be a bigger part of future relationships where they weren’t in previous ones
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Too much. Not enough real sex with another person.
i’d like to feel more free and empowered to imagine and share what i’d like. i think i often feel worried it won’t be the ‘right’ thing that aligns w my partner and turns them on. so i can keep myself from actually exploring. or i worry i’m not good enough to get it while other, ‘better’ more ‘real’ guys are. kind of a ‘am i good enough to dare to dream,’ sort of thing. and i can also feel like i should want and be able to fulfill fantasies my partner wants.
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Not much. I’d like to grow and focus on then more! Sounds fun
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Not much I’ve been open but I’m not as sexually confident or as much as a sexual person as my gf
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Years ago, I got a pdf copy of Nancy Friday’s, My Secret Garden. My wife had a copy on her computer and I had a copy on mine. We went through the stories separately and then I would email. What I found interesting, what was a turn on or what was not. She would reply back with her point of view. It turned us on to a whole new chapter of sexual experiences. I want to say we went through probably 2 of the stories a week. When we finished that book. We moved on to another book by Nancy Friday, Women on Top. We went through a third one as well that was by Nancy Friday, but I do not remember the title.
The book served as a catalyst for us to discuss sex more openly than we had before. There were a few ground rules. The first was this. Whatever we had to say about how we felt about something we read, that was how we felt. We did not need to be critical of one another for a fantasy being arousing to us. The other was that if something was not arousing, we could just say that it was not. We could not be critical of the fantasy of someone else, just because it did not appeal to us.
I highly recommend something of this nature. It is amazing to find out that a number of things that you can talk about you can do. Other things you can indulge one anothers fantasies in play acting. Tremendous amount of fun to be had with this.
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They do play a part in my head but would like to explore them with my fiancé
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I usually fantasise when I’m alone and the few times I’ve thought about fantasies while with my partner It didn’t feel the right thing to do but this course has challenged that. I’ll use it more now when I’m with my partner.
I’ve seen fantasy as an escape and have had better results being totally present but that’s not always possible and I will give this a try
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I’ve wondered whether or not I need to share all my fantasies with my wife in order to have the strongest possible connection with her, but sometimes I fantasize about people we know, which I think would be hurtful. But I don’t want to actually act on those, so I think maybe those are mine to keep private
I fantasize a lot because my partner is long distance. Most of my fantasies involve her in some way, so I get to think about her a lot. I have some specific fantasies that I would really like to try, and one that I might only discuss if it comes up in conversation.
I started to open up with my gf. I got detailed about some of the things I like : my nipples played with, worshipping her body, especially her sexy feet and toes. I also let her know I really enjoy giving oral. She opened up that she enjoys being tied up. (So do I…) I bought some Velcro cuffs and made some adjustable restraints from simple cargo straps and aluminum carabiners. That was a fun night!!
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As a result of this app, I’ve given up porn and solo (90%…. Can’t do cold turkey…
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I’ve tried to go solo using just my fantasies or simply listening to porn or stories while fantasizing about my gf and I together.
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Not that much
They were present most of my life so, I would say a fair amount.
They’re not currently. Really trying to wean myself off from porn and get aroused by my own thoughts.
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I have been using fantasies while masturbating all my life but recently stopped since they did not include my current girlfriend. I would want to add more fantasies to my bank that I can use to get hard before penetration.
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They are very spur of the moment without intention.
I never have it much thought or dedicated time
Not part of relationship
I’d like to diversify my fantasies a bit. Love the idea of this bank. One thing this app has taught me, is how one way I’ve been sexually (one main fantasy, one way to wank, one way to have sex). Building up this library will be a great help in a pinch I think.