A big amount
My wife is extremely sexually conservative. PIV only, in the dark, pretty much no foreplay, no taking allowed. Every time I’ve brought up some pretty vanilla ideas she’s reacted against it strongly and now I’m afraid to talk about sex with her.
They are definitely a part of my life when I masturbate, but I’ve been reluctant to use them consciously when approaching sex with my girlfriend. I have reached for them in the past in the moment when I have had trouble getting hard, but felt shame for thinking about other women, which only added to my stress. I think de-stigmatizing them would be helpful to give me another tool if I’m not in the mood or feeling stressed in the moment. I just don’t want it to take away from being present or noticing physical sensations.
I don’t have any specific sexual fantasies. I’ve never really made any, but I guess going forward. I’ll start making new ones.
It’s interesting, it’s not a huge part of my sexual life. Recently since starting a new relationship I’m obviously often fantasising about the next encounter but aside from that I’m not sure I fantasise loads - I’ve largely relied on porn! I’m excited to lean into this and see where it leads.
My girlfriend is extremely open to almost anything sexually or fantasy wise. I think we get in to a comfortable grove of what “works” or gets us off and we didn’t keep up the different or spicy things we used to do so now we don’t think or act on the level we use to when we used to be adventurous.
They are a part of my life but usually I mainly engage with them through porn or on my own when masturbating. It’s hard for me to use fantasies when I’m with a partner because it makes me feel like I’m not savoring the moment enough or makes me feel like I’m cheating on them somehow.
I have sexual fantasies that I don’t like that make me feel bad, Probably due to over consumption of porn. But I have healthy fantasies that I would like to try with my partner
They are very private fantasies and I’ve watched too much porn and read too much erotic literature, so this has fuelled my fantasies
They’re the things that drew me towards dating, but also to porn and Sex addiction in the past. I no longer have issues with them, I love my fantasies. But from this course I can tell I need to reconnect with what we’re more my own, organically created fantasies, rather than what I learned from porn and erotica.
Make it more my own, and not twisted as much by porn and erotica.