A big amount
My wife is extremely sexually conservative. PIV only, in the dark, pretty much no foreplay, no taking allowed. Every time I’ve brought up some pretty vanilla ideas she’s reacted against it strongly and now I’m afraid to talk about sex with her.
They are definitely a part of my life when I masturbate, but I’ve been reluctant to use them consciously when approaching sex with my girlfriend. I have reached for them in the past in the moment when I have had trouble getting hard, but felt shame for thinking about other women, which only added to my stress. I think de-stigmatizing them would be helpful to give me another tool if I’m not in the mood or feeling stressed in the moment. I just don’t want it to take away from being present or noticing physical sensations.
I don’t have any specific sexual fantasies. I’ve never really made any, but I guess going forward. I’ll start making new ones.
It’s interesting, it’s not a huge part of my sexual life. Recently since starting a new relationship I’m obviously often fantasising about the next encounter but aside from that I’m not sure I fantasise loads - I’ve largely relied on porn! I’m excited to lean into this and see where it leads.
My girlfriend is extremely open to almost anything sexually or fantasy wise. I think we get in to a comfortable grove of what “works” or gets us off and we didn’t keep up the different or spicy things we used to do so now we don’t think or act on the level we use to when we used to be adventurous.
They are a part of my life but usually I mainly engage with them through porn or on my own when masturbating. It’s hard for me to use fantasies when I’m with a partner because it makes me feel like I’m not savoring the moment enough or makes me feel like I’m cheating on them somehow.
I have sexual fantasies that I don’t like that make me feel bad, Probably due to over consumption of porn. But I have healthy fantasies that I would like to try with my partner
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They are very private fantasies and I’ve watched too much porn and read too much erotic literature, so this has fuelled my fantasies
They’re the things that drew me towards dating, but also to porn and Sex addiction in the past. I no longer have issues with them, I love my fantasies. But from this course I can tell I need to reconnect with what we’re more my own, organically created fantasies, rather than what I learned from porn and erotica.
Make it more my own, and not twisted as much by porn and erotica.
Since me and my partner are long distance, I keep fantasizing about what I want to happen next time. On top of this, I’m trying to quit porn and masturbation to help rewire my mind. So the urges can get pretty intense.
I think i need to more reliably and healthily use fantasy in my tool kit during sex. I forget about this valuable tool.
I sometimes use fantasies to engage better during sex but will plan to do more in the future.
Used to do this with my ex since it was a very long-term relationship and I guess I didn’t want her anymore so I imagined other stuff. I have some fantasies in mind but I’ll grow the bank and start to utilize it more.
I used to have lots of fantasies about my wife, but with kids, work, school and extra activities I lost touch of my fantasies and got a little bored and also always being tired, need to work on fantasies alot, fantasies are a big pusher for good sex
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Not much. I’ve always felt ashamed where my fantasies don’t match up with my real life persona. That’s obviously inhibitive
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I feel they are not a part of my relationship, I feel like always restrain and hide parts of myself from my partner for fear of them actually seeing me. But I’m realizing this is more in my head than anything
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I do fantasize often, but im afraid to tell my partner with the fear that i would be judged.
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My partner (or rather ex) didn’t enjoy it.
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