Mine isn’t a voice, it’s an overwhelming feeling of dread. It leads to either having trouble getting hard or finishing early. Like the feeling dread bears down on me heavier and heavier.
I look for signs of disinterest that pull me out of an intimate connection and ultimately become a self fulfilling prophecy.
Mine tells me “you’re going to cum early “ and “damn you’re not even going to make your girl cum”…after I finish it’s also like disgusted with me and makes me think my partner will leave me for somebody else or even that she could already be experiencing someone else . Also start comparing to other people in her past and if they lasted longer than me. Shame over powers me
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Mine flashes images of memories related to what happening and distracts me. It’s usually unpleasant images and thoughts that shift to other thoughts and images unrelated as it ramps up my anxiety.
Usually after I finish I am filled with a sense of dread and hopelessness that overwhelm me and make me think horrible thoughts. The first time I had sex, I was completely unattracted to my gf at the time and ended up breaking up with her soon after (feeling terrible for how I made her feel). I’ve had sex that was enjoyable and I felt great afterwards as well, but it doesn’t stick with me like the bad experiences. The last time I had sex, I was completely disgusted with myself afterwards to the point I thought it had to do with my sexuality(it was with a girl that I’d had a crush on for a long time before we had sex the first time and this was a few years after that)
Mine flashes back to the first time I had sex and how I came quickly, and then had a partner that laughed, yelled, and berated me. That person manifested in this and is constantly telling me I’m terrible.
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Mine reminds me of all the other times I came too fast and felt like I was not good enough for my partner. This brings me back to insecurities in my teenage years.
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Mine I my ex partner. I hear her saying awful things. Saying that I’m not enough and I won’t please her or anyone else, even though I was able to make her squirt and achieve sexual pleasure.
I know feel like she’s trying to make me ‘less’ with other partners.
I’m not I’m able to seperate out my inner critic yet, I suppose it the inner narrative I have during sex telling myself to pull way or you’ll cum too early.
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Mine says I am going to lose control and be flooded with sensation and cum to early and feel shame as I can not control myself and allow my partner to relax and be sexually satisfied.
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No balls! No but seriously- I have no balls…cancer did me in. But I’m always wondering when or if a sexual partner is going to notice. I typically try and get ahead of it and just tell them, but sometimes it can ruin the mood and puts me in an uncomfortable place to have to disclose my body. So I’ve been trying to just not say anything about it- to spare myself from feeling uncomfortable and to not feel so ashamed of my body. This is me accept it. But then that just leaves me so in my head feeling ashamed of my penis.
Mine always tells me not to even try because I’m going to hit that point of no return so fast there’s no way anybody could get any pleasure out of it. And it fills me with a feeling of dread.
On a good note though, I named him Henry and he’s a pink earthworm who wears nothing but a top hat
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It’s a voice saying ‘don’t come too quickly’ over and over. But normally I do. When I don’t cone too quickly and hold it back, I’m almost unused to it, and the timing is off - like I’ll come but not on the wave of an orgasm, so it’s physically complete but not pleasurable and satisfying.
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I enjoyed the guided meditation — getting to know the inner critique brings more clarity and can understand how it indeed gets in my way in the act of having sex
Mine keeps repeating to not to cum fast, as she won’t reach to her climax. But that noise keeps repeating and I’m too focused on not to cum that I count the time instead of enjoying the moment. Also I got somehow convinced that the first time is going to be fast and that second round is the best… But between those two rounds my voice starts to think about the short first round, and get nervous for the second one
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I like the idea of speaking back. I think it could be a powerful positioning: not allowing oneself to be a mere victim but someone that calmly answers it. I see you, inner critic. I hear your disdain. But I will not let it phase me. For that would allow you to win.
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I like the idea of taking back control
The voice tells me not to try having sex because it’ll just be unsatisfying anyway. When I do have sex the voice makes me focus so much on not getting too aroused, I think it has the opposite effect and I focus so much on it
I see my inner critic as a bigger and better version of myself that could live out all the fantasies that I think about. I always hear it in second person, as in “you’re not pleasing her” or something of the sort.
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I see it like looking in the mirror, not necessarily always sexually but I feel like it’s me telling me to do better or that I’m not good enough in certain situations.
I see it just as a voice telling me I can’t last long enough and she isn’t going to enjoy it because of that