I assume I will stop being hard during penetrative sex and that this will always be the case.
But fact checking this I know I can’t read the future, that I can stay hard in penetrative sex and have in the past, and I know that the thought is simply a negative and the alternate is that I probably will be hard and cum.
I have E.D. and struggle to keep my erections.
By reprogramming my negative thoughts about this I will achieve stronger erections and experience more fulfilling sex.
I came way too fast and my partner said she wanted to get off. I was disappointed in myself for doing it. Fact checking that I have pills to help me with it and can switch positions or do oral to take a break help with that issue
I can reprogram the idea that I am not good enough and never will be. By constantly believing that I will get to the point where i feel worthy enough
A negative thought I can reprogram is that I often think that because I’ve given soft early in the past that it is guaranteed to happen always. In reality I have no evidence for this, I have been hard before and had great sex and I will do it again
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The negative thought I have is my first time and noticing I wasnt getting hard which was the last thought on my mind. I think this would be over generalisation as it was my first time and I was very nervous. I have alight evidence for this as time.afterwards I would not be able to maintain an erection but I remember being nervous each time before, and it was before I used mojo so I didn’t have the other tools
I sometimes don’t get as hard and this made me think my partner is not as satisfied with me. I also keep reaching climax very fast and struggle to enjoy the feelings, as if I enjoy them, I will cum early and lead to the dissatisfaction of my partner.
In reality, she has always been able to finish, I just place too much pressure on my performance.
I do want to improve my erection quality and orgasm control so I can enjoy sex more and in turn, she will also.
Cum too early. Came randomly during foreplay. My partner said well that’s a surprise ending, and seemed disappointed. My negative thought was that I will always cum too early. But this isn’t true. I usually don’t cum early when I’m not stressed. Or after a workout.
I initially get hard but my mind soon puts a stop to that. It never really returns to being hard in that moment. This has happened multiple times. But I have had plenty of experiences where I have stayed hard and been able to have enjoyable sex.
Last time, I couldn’t finish without really thinking about porn. I hate myself for it; I felt guilty for how it made my partner feel when I couldn’t finish for such a long time.
However, it’s not her thinking that. She tells me it doesn’t bother her. She always
seems happy afterward, even when I have to finish myself off.
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Last time I was worried I would orgasm too fast, and I did. I felt like a failure and thought she thought I was a bad partner. However, I don’t know that she didn’t have a good time, or that she thinks those things. I’m just making it up without any evidence other than my own performance.
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My negative thought is that I won’t be able to last long enough, so I’ll get nervous and therefore lose my erection. In reality, I have lasted long before, and she said she doesn’t care how I perform.
For me a set of the reasons for negative thinking are all linked - by brain can’t easily shake off my first sexual experience, when I was so stressed I couldn’t get hard. I think it’s rooted in fight or flight being a way of finding safety, but it kicks in more the more intimate a scenario is. Learning that there is not only safety but huge fulfilment in connecting with the right people is exactly what “reprogramming negative thoughts” is doing.
Before I have had sex I am already worried I won’t get hard or stay hard to have good sex, I’m already failing the performance before it happens which lead to negative thoughts in my head
That if I don’t keep my erection andpenetrate my partner she is going to leave me.
The fact that I never get hard when I need to
I know it’s cause I’m constantly spectating and watching myself, and I know I can change that within myself
Sometimes during sex, I feel locked into certain fantasies which, when they fail to keep me aroused, cause me to lose my erection. I have much greater success when I am present and in the moment with my partner, focused on our shared sensations. This is what I need to work on
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I should get hard from any blowjob is one I hear in my head frequently. The truth is I only get hard when I receive a blowjob the way I like it. Big difference between the two.
That it will never get fixed
I won’t get as hard as I should and my
Partner will think I have erectile issues