I can’t get hard all the time because I’m so anxious then I feel like a failjre
It hasnt happened everytime. She’s said she’s had the best sex of her life with me before so I know it will happen again
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If I can’t stay hard to penetrate then my wife won’t enjoy our time together.
If I can’t stay hard to penetrate then my wife won’t enjoy our time together.
She actively tells you she is enjoying herself during foreplay and masturbation. You can see that she is enjoying herself.
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That i am going to finish fast, and dissapoint myself and my girlfriend
The last time I tried to have sex with my partner, it was a failure. I‘ve come to believe that the lack of attraction towards her is the cause of.
Since my issue maintaining an erection has happened twice already, I’m afraid I’ll never be able to enjoy sex or satisfy my partner ever again (Overgeneralization/catastrophizing)
Erections aren’t so much if a problem for me, I’m able to get erect and stayberecr for prolonged periods. I struggle with performance anxiety, but slowly this is improving.
That if I am soft in the moment, it means I’ll always be soft (or never get hard). That’s not objectively true even if I “feel” it is. Accept I won’t always be hard 24/7 - I’m not a teenager anymore (I’m in my 50s).
I tend to catastrophize, but working on reprogramming
I have no problem getting hard, I struggle to stay hard thinking more about is my partner enjoying this than how much I’m enjoying it.
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I can get hard but sometimes when it gets to the point where she starts to play with it it goes soft.
Its a cycle for sure once it happens, i almost obsesss over it than dwell on it…
I am not good at this. It makes me anxious. I am trying though.
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I’m never going to get hard for sex again!
Truth is I’ve had way way way more sex with a hard on then not getting erection. It happens in the beginnings with new women and then eventually I’m successful.
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Same thing I know that feeling
That I always finish early and will never satisfy my partner naturally. This isn’t true 100% of the time and is an overgeneralisation
Thoughts about my past negative experiences don’t define me and don’t have an impact on my next encounter. I’m in control and can write a new narrative. Just focus on the moment and fully engage with your partner
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That she can’t enjoy things if I’m not hard thrusting into her.
Every partner has told me that’s not at all true. It’s the intimacy, connection, safety.
If I can’t stay hard during sex, I am a failure she will leave me.
I know this is not true, and the value of our relationship is the safety and depth of our emotional connection.
“I will never be able to cum and get my wife pregnant”
I know this is not true. I am doing the work to make sure that I can eventually ejaculate when I have sex with Nur