It’s something my wife and I have talked about. I don’t have ED but I do climax too fast, and now after a vasectomy and no longer using condoms to blunt the sensitivity, that is more of an issue. I’m open about the concern, and she understands. I’m glad I’m trying to gain better control of it and I’m sure she’d be glad to know that. (She wouldn’t be happy I’ve paid $100 for 3 months of membership but that’s another story)
It’s not that frightening to me because I’ve done it before. If anything most of the time they appreciate the honesty and it causes you to bond more…
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Be kind to yourself. Sharing vulnerability might the key to unlock a whole new possibility within you both as individuals and a pair.
There is a bigger issue within my own headspace of this being a part. Recovering from trauma, off the scale stress and questioning the purpose of existence each day, the drive even to complete these simple activities here feels a mountain in and of itself.
I feel slightly nervous but know from experience that it is the right thing to do, and that the reaction of a partner is likely to be supportive and positive. I also agree and have experienced that ownership creates confidence and will help you move past the issues faster.
I have had the discussion with my gf (now wife). It was tough as I was already in my head, and she was trying to breach the subject without trying to make me feel ashamed.
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I’ve had the discussion with the partner that I’m currently seeing and although it was difficult/awkward at first, her response took some of the weight of my shoulders and made me feel more comfortable. It also allowed me to reassure her that it has nothing to do with her, but rather that it’s my issue that I’ve been working to address.
My partner is not understanding, and everything has to happen to her timeline and expectations.
Tbh her inflexibility is probably where my anxiety came from
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I’ve had these conversations recently and as horrible/embarrassing as you might think they are. They went really well, the girl was super understanding and happy I was honest. Plus it leads to you having plenty of fun in bed even if the little man’s not up to it
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I recently discussed early climaxing with my gf. I felt nervous, perhaps even afraid of the consequences or embarrassment…but it was far from that. She validated my thoughts and feelings. She even shared her own anxieties about sex. This was a positive discussion and I hope it can help improve our sex life going forward by working as a team.
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The idea sounds good, The real test would depend on her maturity and understanding.
I am usually alright at addressing it with I statements. I could maybe date more, but I do try and communicate about it
Being honest and open about this from the start has really helped me in my newest relationship.
Cool
I am comfortable with it
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Very comfortable
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I actually feel pretty stressed about raising this with someone new. And I’m single. So it will take some courage from me to go there
Originally, it was a bit of an uncomfortable topic to bring up. However, as I’ve learned more about and gotten more comfortable with myself, it feels easier to discuss and own the topic with a partner.
I’ve already had these conversations with my wife. Am I glad I did? Yes, of course. But it hasn’t changed anything for me.
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I’ve already had the conversation ad nauseum with my wife so it isn’t helpful to bring up anymore