I feel brave suddenly. The video gave me ideas on how to relieve that anxiety up front. I will certainly try it
It’s like a weight off my chest, but more than that, their reaction to my bid will speak to the quality of our relationship together. If they are not willing or able to work with you, maybe they aren’t the one for you.
I already started discussing it. And i will be more clear when we are next to each other next.
I know that my partner is someone I can trust and is someone I feel comfortable talking to about this issue, and is supporting me through this process
Something I need to work on, feel more comfortable with, and fully own!
It’s never easy but I often feel lighter afterwards…the taking ownership piece is important for sure.
I don’t have an issue with… and my wife is very understanding
We can talk about it a label it these days but was an issue in the past - it has really helped to label and discuss, my partner was really taking it personally for a long time thinking something was wrong with them or I was not attracted to them! Best to talk openly and make you’re-self vulnerable otherwise you may inadvertently impact your partners confidence also etc
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I feel like I can talk about it well, but it doesn’t sit super comfortably with either of us sadly
At this point, I’m going to need a specific type of understanding and cooperation from any potential partner, so talking about it early (before the bedroom) is fine with me. I’d rather learn if it’s a deal breaker sooner than later after investing more emotion into a budding relationship. Knowing exactly when and identifying that opportunity is a bit trickier. Not exactly something you just being up casually on a date when you’re getting to know each other, but feels a bit late when you’re starting to fool around too. I’m off on a fifth date tonight, for example, picking her up at her place and dropping some stuff off there before heading out (plans already agreed). This feels to me like something may be prepared to “happen” and I’ll likely be having this conversation tonight. So important to own it before she suspects that it’s her and not me. It’s all me…she’s amazing.
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It’s a tough one but definitely something that I am going to try
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I just started dating somebody new and thought what the heck I’m just going to tell them about my ED and I did. The problem hasn’t gone away yet but it’s definitely improving and it really helped to get it out there - now it feels like something we’re both invested in sorting out.
I feel okay about it. It’s already happened. I’m in an age gap relationship where she is older, but I still make her cum and we talk everyday.
I may consider it, it definitely showed me some new ways that I did not consider before!
I feel a lot of shame and guilt discussing my loss of erections and inability to gain them with Viagra with my partner of two years. She takes my ED personally and disengages if I lose an erection or don’t start getting hard quickly. I want there to be space for her wants, feelings, and expectations but the weight of them feels crushing right now. Sex for me is becoming more about avoiding causing her pain than about eroticism and my desire right now and I’m really struggling
I’ve been married for 15 years and we have always had a really open dialogue around this, more so the last 7 years and tjat really helps. I know my wife has my back when i am struggling