Terrible
I feel shame when I discuss it. I try to remind myself that my wife knew about my struggles when we got married and she still loves me and accepts me.
Comfortable. My partner is very supportive
It is difficult, but I have come to realize that it is important to be open and share your struggles with your partner
I feel a bit awkward, but I do believe it is important, so I am going to do it
A little awkward, but I probably still would.
Awkward at firs but it helps a lot. Build that true intimacy
I’ve been with my partner for many years and we’ve discussed a lot around each others challenges. I do think we’ve gotten into a trap though. Like because we know we’ve talked about them, we’re not necessarily putting in the work to help ourselves
Lucky to have a great listener as a partner, so will explain the issue I am having and that it is psychological and something I am working through but would like her to be aware and perhaps engage in my journey to perform in the way I want to
No partner right now, so when I start to date, it feels very daunting to talk to a girl I have just met or being in bed with for the first time, thinking it might be like trauma dumping and sign of weakness to them
It’s always felt much too shameful to Speak openly about, which is just weird considering it’s something she is already very aware of after years of sex together. Always felt better to have it an unspoken thing or play it off in a joking self-deprecative way. I know having a real chat will result in support and even some help with exercises etc. so it’s probably time.
Nothing of this is helping me so far … I can’t just tell a new girl that I probably won’t be able to getting up
Becoming more comfort abou opening up
I feel comfortable discussing it with my partner because she is really supportive, and connection is more important than an erection or penitration. As long as I don’t tune out emotionally and give up, she is fine with it.
It felt embarrassing, like I’m less of a man or something but I’m learning this isn’t the case at all.
I feel comfortable wth it.
I’m scared. I have PE, and have for my whole year and half relationship. I haven’t told her yet, always just found sneaky ways to hide it like bust one out in the bathroom right before, or I was on a SSRI for a while. I’m finally gonna tell her tomorrow.
Honestly, it hit hard about the communication issues with couples. I feel at times I have been with someone who was unable or unwilling to comprehend what I was trying to communicate in regards to sex. For example, trying to have sex on the couch while watching tv at 11pm at night where the position was wildly uncomfortable and I started losing my hardness. I counted six times where I would suggest going elsewhere or that I didn’t want the tv on, or that the couch was not conducive to sex was met with dismissal. It’s hard to crack those communication topics back open when I felt unheard and misunderstood. I will attempt to persevere and not falter in my attempts, as a good man would.
You can do this! You are strong for even the attempt.
It might be awkward at first but beneficial in the long run