I think part of my problem is that I tend to see it as a penetration process. If I had to define it now, I would say it is a very intimate moment, in which you share parts of you inside and out with a partner in a process which ends with pleasure. You let a part of yourself out which nobody else sees other than your partner. You devour her, or let her devour you. Physically en emotionally.
I don’t know if I can ever get outside the script, because I feel so far removed from what is “normal” for a man by being very short and being much smaller than average down there, so I don’t think I can ever find a place within society when it comes to sex and relationships. But I also don’t know how to accept that I’ll be alone forever.
I don’t know if I will ever be able to flip the script, since I’m so outside the normal of what it means to be a man since I’m very short and am much smaller than average down there. I don’t think I can ever find a place in society when it comes to sex and relationships, but I also don’t want to, or don’t know how to, accept that I’ll be alone forever.
A comfortable and intimate space where I can truly be myself and share that with my partner without fear
being fully connected with a partner, allowing for physical intimacy
Something to enjoy & explore…
Enjoyment and comfort. Playful and intense at the same time. Sex can be rough and aggressive but sometimes it can be an expression of love. In a relationship, it can be an opportunity for closeness and contact after the session concludes. Sex should also include all the flirting, touching, looks, and gestures
Making my partner feel good and showing off myself.
Feeling confident enough to explore the more kinkier sides of myself with my partner.
Turning on a woman until she is out of control… then dominating in a pleasurable way
An emotional and physical connection that culminates in mutual pleasure.
Being completely comfortable and safe, fully exposed and vulnerable with each other, no inhibitions or fears about looking at or touching each other everywhere, taking each other in with every possible sensation (look, touch, smell, etc.). Slowly working into it or being spontaneous works, if a spontaneous erection happens when I’m relaxed it’s fun to say “hey” or “check this out” and just pull it out or put her hand on it. Starting slow and getting more rough and aggressive usually works best but those rare spontaneous moments are also a good time to start off pushing or throwing her on a bed or sofa, pinning her down while groping and undressing her.
Pleasure
An outlet for anger, aggression. I want to give, but I also want to be selfish and take what I deserve.
Sobriety
Sex is discovery
Sex is ego
Sex is giving yourself over to your partner. It’s seeking pleasure and connection on a deeper level. Focus on what feels good, not this rigid approach of appropriate foreplay into penetrative sex
I know from when I create fantasys and masterbate that taking charge and being a bit forceful gets me hard… but in real life I am shy and tend to be submissive… this doesn’t arose me at all and it shows… I always relied on alcohol but now I am sober I will just have to own it and take control - if it makes me harder then I get more confident… then it’s a positive feedback loop 
Animalistic intertwining of souls