I will try to keep this going.
I use it all the time. If I’m in my fantasy, I’m not worried about ED.
I will try
I will have to foster this skill. I discovered porn at a very young age so my imagination is not nearly as active as it once was.
They are not a part of my life much right now, I have generally tried to suppress or ignore them. I’m looking forward to leaning into my fantasies and developing them
I have fantasies, but they tend to be disparate images and memories. I think fleshing them out like this could be useful
My partner and I have discussed and acted on a few that are realistic. But am keen to explore my own fantasies further
Ironically, one of the best nights of sex was after we read a book together that included pages of spicy material. In great detail. She wasn’t even reading it in an intentionally sexy way, but both of us ended up feeling the tension rise, page by page, and we ended up having sex 3 times that night, both of us finishing each time!
They have been in the past. They do add to the allure of sex
I haven’t really used fantasy much in recent years. I’ve offloaded that mental work to porn. Plus I’ve always thought it’s kinda disrespectful to fantasize about someone else while you are in a relationship. But I am going to try being more open minded if it can help resolve my issues with arousal.
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It is hard for me to open to my partner, but I want to I desire to be able to talk openly it just that tiny step that is always blocking
I would want to differentiate between fantasies i want to experience and which ones i just like to think about but not actually do. There seems to be a belief that if a fantasy is shared then it has to be acted on which isnt the case and has caused issues in the past.
Visualize and sensing body and vocal pleasures
My partner and I haven’t gone too in-depth with our conversations involving fantasies. With that being said, the little tidbits I’ve heard or picked up on imply that he wouldn’t be comfortable doing some things I would like. If it’s based on insecurity or fear on his end, then I’ll take all the time we need to release those negative feelings and make sure we’re comfortable when we do engage. If it’s just something he doesn’t want, then I’ll accept that and move forward, not holding it against him. Another struggle coming from fantasy is that most of my active desires require me to be submissive. While that inherently is not a bad thing, I’m already comfortable being the receiving partner. It doesn’t spark the same physical sensation or address the issue that I can’t climax from what we already do.
I think this needs practice. I definitely don’t feel like I’m good at fantasizing. But also, I don’t know if I’ll be creative enough in the moment to think of a fantasy, or remember one from my fantasy bank. Maybe creativity needs practice too? I agree that this could help fill the void after I try to get out of my head
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Need to grow in this area I’ve been not using fantasies at all, but I have a imaginative mind so Im sure I’ll come up with some stuff
I used to fantasize about lot more as a teenager and in my early 20s. Now at almost 30, I have used porn as a crutch to help me get off. Looking forward to bringing that mental creativity back into play - it remember it feeling more fun
She told me some fantasies that she would want to live out .
Just simple like while she’s on the laptop to whip out my cock and rub it on her …
She like it spontaneous
She wants to get dressed up go on a date
Using more fantasies and less porn to stimulate mental imagery
I have a lot of fantasies but it’s hard to keep them “alive” in my head whilst I’m battling my inner critic. I play out a lot of scenarios in my head regularly every day. Have done for years. Sex is a huge part of my life and my make up. They all have a dom / sub aspect but can range from me being a heavy dom and a super sub guy to me be softer dom easing a guy into the sub world.
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