When i ejaculate too quickly.
Putting on condoms, certain positions,
Transitioning from hot and heavy foreplay to intercourse gets me worried that I wont be able to keep it up and hard. If I do stay hard when we begin that at that moment I begin to get in my head and start doubting I will keep it up for long. I also get worried that in the time I go to put on a condom I will go soft. It’s a trigger for me to think about that time of getting a condom on and doubting that I will stay hard
First time I’m going to have sex with a new girl
Going straight to penetration has always been an issue for me. I tend toward a set sequence of events that put oral on both sides before penetration. Somebody brought up an interesting point that resonates, as someone who puts my pleasure second, that it may be the confidence boost of my partner enjoying themselves audibly that gives me the confidence to get and stay erect. More recently, it is even after foreplay when I am expected to penetrate.
Also, during penetration I find I will lose my erection when it becomes difficult to slide in and out because a) I assume it means they’re bored or not enjoying themselves and b) it becomes harder to push in, which leads to spectatoring and doubting my erection’s firmness.
Most if not nearly every time anyone else wants to touch my peen it goes straight into limp mode. I sort of feel like they’ll have to work too hard…
Somewhere around the 10-15 minute mark during sex I get super self concious that I’m taking too long. I then begin to spiral about not being able to finish, at which point I start to lose my erection. It’s kind of a doom spiral from there. I can recover some of the time, but it’s rare.
Often times just knowing that things could go to another level can give me anxiety. Never have been able to put on a condom. The idea of doing missionary and anything where I’m not laying down oftentimes makes me think I’ll lose my erection. I often times find that in the moment I analyze how hard I am and if I sense I’m losing an erection it usually just goes downhill.
You know I only lose it when I go rounds and usually during the 3rd or 2nd round, I get soft putting it back in and I get embarrassed but tired at the same time, it definitely defeats me but I reflect and think I’ve put in good work, however I do see sometimes when I’m on bottom and she’s
on top but then I do stop listening and start enjoying
Changing of positions
The first few times I’m about to have sex with someone I can lose the erection before insertion
Its getting a bit more intense and were about to enter intercourse and I worry about pleasing her, but I know now that is an issue because it puts all this pressure on me
I feel I am spectatoring, whenever I feel like i am
The one who has to take control. I start worrying if I can come up with anything good enough
When she gets on top
If my partner spend too long giving me head I start focusing on my hard on and have to change it up before I inevitably lose my mojo. Basically if the attention is on me, I start spectatoring…
With a new partner and feel the pressure to perform and almost to prove myself is when the erection problems begin. I’m often better when either going to bed or in the morning as the sex happens more naturally and I might not be thinking about it so much.
When I’m in a longer term relationship and comfortable around sex the problems lessen and mostly go away
Just general forplay. I’m worried that when she puts her hand down my boxers I won’t be ready. Which means that I never will be ready because I’m stuck in my head.
The build up / pre going to bed, during foreplay I can worry and get distracted and putting on condoms is a massive trigger.
Iv genuinely just been getting anxiety for literally any kind of physical interaction with my partner
Sometimes it’s hard until right before I put it in