Condoms
When we switch positions and in my mind I think that it doesn’t feel good even though she loves the position we transition to
Moving from kissing to sex right away.
Condoms; also that transition from foreplay to sex, as well as missionary
I lose my erection going from foreplay to getting ready for actual sex
Putting on the condom
During sex if I’m not massively aroused
I really enjoy giving oral sex to my fiancé and she enjoys it as well. The problem is sometimes I think about losing my erection while I’m pleasuring her and then at that point I do.
literally in the foreplay i have a movie in my mind of one time i didnt get hard enough. but i have to understand is natural and to trust my body.
My biggest problem comes from initiating penetration, I can get hard and stay hard for all of the foreplay but right when I go For penetration I soften in the process, now every time I go for it I’m unsuccessful
When she just lays there and doesn’t do things to keep me aroused and I’m supposed to just get him up on my own
Putting on condoms is definitely one for me, as well as the general fear of losing election in the act
Different positions sort of kill it for me. When it’s a position where I don’t feel as much pleasure I feel my erection fading which bums me out because it’s a position that sh’es more of a fan of.
The transition from foreplay definitely causes some difficulty. Sometimes I have to masturbate to keep erection which I do not want to do during this process.
I definitely had condom situations kill my boner. Its like a ticking time bomb and you have to put the condom on before the erection goes down. I think one time i remember masturbating with condom in order to penetrate because of how long it took me to put the stupid condom on. Another thing that has killed my boner is when shes on top and takes over and does movements that feel more good for her. During those times i just try to relax and focus on the feeling even though im not really doing anything besides laying there. One more thing that can kill them is long pauses between or before penetration. For example if have a boner but I have to warm her up and do a little foreplay with her I start to become afraid my erection will go down before I penetrate.
Putting on a condom. But also foreplay, I worry that if I am not getting hard thenmy partner won’t be enjoying it. I end up focussing much more on how hard I am than the actual experience of foreplay
putting the condom on and hoping it stays hard
All
We usually start with me giving her oral sex and sure usually orgasms from it. Then she expects me to be erect and enter her. I do. It get an erection while giving her oral but I am stimulates as I often have pre-cum at the tip.
I have found that her returning oral often gets me erect but I get in my head worried about the erection and that ends my chance of moving on to penetration
Fearing I will lose it as I perform oral sex on my wife. Or fearing I will lose it with any sort of break in the flow of action.
Condoms definitely, but also when I’m getting ridden. I’ve definitely associated those with deflation in the past. But this even applies to other things for me (eg exhibitionism, which I love but generally can’t stay hard for).