The girl riding, or anything where I’m lying on my back
There have been a few times where I have been hard early during foreplay, excited for what’s to come and all that. Then foreplay escalates, and now I’m not having fun, I’m just doing everything I can to get her off, and my dick just dies, I swear, dead. Nothing waking it up, I’ll get her to cum, and then it’s my turn, “oh f***”. Now she’s pawing at me, all limp, and it’s game over. It feels absolutely hopeless.
I’m not sure if it’s necessarily a specific situation that causes me to lose my erection, or if it’s just performance anxiety that kills me.
looking for the lubricant or a vibrador.
When we are just getting into it and our dogs interrupt us or something gets in the way of the flow I can’t stop obsessing over “I’m not going to be able to get it back”
I feel nervous that I will finish too quickly or that I will not be able to make her finish before I do
I have had issues with both anxiety leading up to an en counter where I just cannot get hard at all and then other times I won’t have that and it’ll all be okay and then I go to out on the condom and once it’s on I lose the erection it may be because I started thinking oh will I lose it this time too
When sex is hyped up I get more nervous. I think it’s the anticipation that makes it worse. I’ll slip into my head and not the feeling of the moment.
I worry that I won’t be able to maintain my erection and that I won’t be able to get another one if I lose it. I feel less like a man for not being able to perform and then I start getting anxious and internally criticising myself. At that point for me the mood has been ruined and I lose the desire to have sex
As soon as I reach for the packet. Every time. I’ve had a vasectomy so only need a condom for protection from disease. I still have issues without a condom, but worth one is been guaranteed instantaneous failure.
In my new relationship stress and anxiety appear in the form on my inner critic just as we are leading up to sex it’s only impacted us once properly so far but I’ve had the feelings of dread and stress in the depths of my stomach a few times which makes no sense as she’s the hottest girl I’ve ever seen and I genuinely care about her. But when the time comes It’s like I can hear myself telling me that it’s not going to happen.
Normally just expecting sex alone gives me performance anxiety.
When everything goes great during foreplay and then it’s time to proceed to intercourse, my mind is running quick to put on a condom before my erection is gone. Thinking about things going as smooth as possible is a trigger for me to spectate.
The moments before penetration
The initial foreplay gets me uncomfortable.
Similarly it’s the break between foreplay and putting on a condom, I can feel the nerves rising in me when it comes to that stage and then the release when I feel it going soft. Killer.
Just in bed if I get hard right away the worry that I won’t get hard later at the right time or it won’t last
When she rides on top of me and sometimes when I am not completely bricked, I begin the spectatoring and then I fear I’ll be too soft so I change positions and at that point I get in my head. Putting on condoms also messes with me and sometimes I feel like if I dont have the skin to skin contact with my penis and her insides, then it won’t stay hard.
Putting on condoms used to be the main problem although recently just moving from foreplay to sex is a worry. Then even during sex I worry and then start to loose my election.
Having used viagra to remedy the long standing issue I’ve had now means if I haven’t taken any the inner voice tells me it isn’t going to work and that I have no chance
I monitor my partner’s reactions during foreplay and if she isn’t enjoying it then my inner critic walks through the door. In parallel I am spectatoring myself always checking in to make sure things are good down there. One bad sign and it’s over…double whammy.