The third date? A Friday night? A dating app notification? What specific situations make you anxious about getting an erection.
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For me, I’m quite excited to think of the prospect, someone who is into me and potentially going to want to be intimate with me, and allow me the pleasure to give to her in all the ways I can think of (I love being a giver, receiving is nice, too of course). I guess when I’ve had issues, I can be excited and I’ll get down to business once the action is on, giving her oral, but then when she wanted to return the favour I would lose it out if nerves. I’ve come a long way since then, and now I get affected during after having a functional erection in her presence, by getting in my head and out of the moment and enjoying the sensations. But I’m happy to say I’m getting better at this, and less judgemental with myself. It’s a process, but I’m gaining confidence in myself. My partner can be judgemental and poor at communication, so this in recent years has been affecting me, work in progress.
Probably when I know we’re about to have sex, I can get an erection easily while making out but as soon as my mind starts preparing for sex it goes away
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