We’ve been trying to have sex more often and as a result, I haven’t always been “bursting” and ready to go. Often I have felt like I cum too fast and now when it seems to be taking too long, I get worried like I won’t be able to come, or I get tired, and just generally in my head. Like I don’t feel like I’m building up to an orgasm but rather just coasting.
My ED is recent, and tied to a sexual experience that was psychologically damaging. It has been compounded by trying to get the right anxiety meds. Triggers: Whenever I perceive that she is displeased or frustrated, when I have a recent experience where I finish too fast or have ED, but mainly it’s when the idea that I have it pops up during sex. For example she is taking forever to finish and so I start feeling not as hard as when I started and eventually lose it.
Getting my girl wet usually takes a lot of foreplay. The longer this goes on, the more afraid I am that I won’t have an erection or that I’ll lose it.
The same thing occurs when I’m give her head or fingering her or using toys. It’s just a constant battle against time and even the mere possibility of even getting hard at some point.
Putting on a condom is a main one
When we start to transition to sex from foreplay I often lose the election as I’m worried about staying hard enough to Pentwater which takes me out of the moment and the inner critic steps into the limelight.
When she start touching me to help me get an erection. I feel pressured to have one
Going for foreplay into intercourse, changing positions, putting condom on.
With teenage daughters at home quickies with limited windows of time can create a lot of pressure to perform and is a trigger for me.
Her saying “are you even into this? You’re not even hard all the way”
Waiting too long … focusing on hardness … position change taking too long
doe they feel good
Usually when the foreplay starts things are going good but then when penetration is set to begin things go wrong that’s when spectating happens for me
I stress about wether I’ll be able to get an erection cus of my porn addiction
Putting on the condom. Right before insertion. I worry that I’ll lose the erection once condom is on. And I have. It feels like this pressure to perform. Blood rushes to my head. I worry. The though triggers anxiety in me about condoms.
. I want to feel like relaxed and aroused.
I often find that if I change positions then I have to rush into the new position. And this sense of rushing is a trigger for sure.
Putting on a condom is similar to this too.
I also think that if it’s too hot (a hot summers night) is a trigger as I think that if I get too hot/sweaty then I won’t be able to keep it up.
Pretty much anything that interrupts the flow of foreplay, getting/opening/putting on a condom is the big one though
When I try something new in bed and my wife doesn’t like it
Everything
sex in general. thinking about it gives me anxiety
I get so in my head from the moment intimacy is likely - watching myself and putting myself down