Going from laying on my back and achieving an erection, then getting into missionary position. More specifically, penetration time…
When I’m fingering my partner towards climaxing, my determination to get her to climaxing makes me lose my erection.
Fear of not getting up and messing sexual intercourse.
transitioning from foreplay to penetration can be challenging, and sometimes if im not immediately erect during foreplay spectating starts and im never able to fully get it up, which starts a negative feedback loop
just in my head thinking about how to get through the sex and satisfying my partner. I skip foreplay because I want to focus on the little flow I have to perform.
The ability to maintain an erection for penetration is anxiety inducing. The condom can make me lose it, but it’s more about the pressure of maintaining the hard once the condom is on.
I sense the spectatoring beginning when we change positions. Placing the condom on can take some time and kill the erection too, but I have had most trouble when going from her on top to me going doggie. I very much look forward to the doggie position and I must be getting into my own head quite a bit just during that position change time.
When an evening is built up beforehand with the pressure of expectations it builds and builds and often leads to being inside my head instead of in the moment.
Not getting enough foreplay, not feeling like my partner is attracted to me (even though logically I know she is), not feeling like I’m enough sexually, being worried that my partner has more experience than me (even though she talks about how good our sex is), the great of initiating sex, then after initiating it’s the fear of not completing due to losing my erection. There are a lot of things.
I basically have to masturbate or receive oral pleasure in order to maintain an erection for sex. And even during penetration, I’m so hyper focused on staying hard for my partner because I don’t want to disappoint her, so I spectate and lose it so quickly. I never use a condom because I’m not hard enough to get it on, nor am I hard enough to move my body or change positions
Putting on a condom, sex with somebody for the 1st time, sex where I feel I have to do a good job or they’ll tell our mutual friends i’m bad
Putting on condom makes me nervous
Transition from foreplay to sexual intercourse. You begin to notice more around and start thinking more about spectatoring
If we need to hurry or if I can tell she’s really horny so I’m afraid I won’t satisfy her.
Yes, the gap between putting on the condom and penetration has been an issue for me in the past without a doubt.
Before the intercourse is major trigger point .
Transition from foreplay to sex. Changing positions.
Taking off my pants and going on top. Also condoms. Any indication that my partner is trying to make me hot almost results in guilt on my part and gets me back spectatoring.
The transition to penetration
As soon as penetration is on the table, my erection starts failing. I haven’t had much experience, in fact the girl I have just started seeing is my first real sexual partner. So far, she hasn’t really been that keen on touching my dick, where, when looking back im starting to question whether she was just doing it for me and I was just doing it for her. During sex, it seemed to go from 0-100 really quickly, from kissing almost straight to her asking about condoms and sex, and it is an instant hit of ‘oh fuck, it’s happening, and I am probably going to be awful, what if I cant do it’.
Putting on the condom seemed to be the full stop to this time, adding to my frustration whilst she is watching and its going flaccid in my hands whilst putting it on. It really feels so embarrassing and kind of heart-wrenching where it feels like she wouldn’t want to be there. And if she doesn’t who else would.