My Psychological ED is gone

When i had just started dating my current girlfriend I had problems getting an erection right before penetration. I had no problems with erections during foreplay and making out but right before penetration I would go limp. I was so embarrassed and thought all these negative thoughts. I kept thinking she was going to leave me and tell people about my problem. But that wasn’t the case. She reassured me and made me feel safe. I told her how I really felt and it felt like a weight was lifted of my shoulders. It didn’t happen overnight but after a few failed attempts I finally was able to have sex multiple times. Overall I feel that if you are struggling with the same problem I had you just need to think of sex as a fun experience to connect with your partner. And also find a partner that you can truly connect with in the bed. Don’t put to much pressure on yourself and using the Box Breathing techniques during sex those actually help. I know those struggling with PED can overcome this. I did.

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Thanks for sharing your story - I’m in precisely the same situation as you: new relationship, she’s very understanding and understands my PED issue. Can get hard during foreplay but as soon as I try to penetrate I go soft. I’m hoping that I can overcome the thoughts holding me back.

We’re both in our 50’s and strangely enough my ED is both a negative and a positive. It takes away the focus on penetrative sex so we can concentrate on each other. There’s no Wham Bam Thank you Mam and it’s over, instead we have a lot of fun over a much longer period which we both love.

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Thanks for sharing!!
Same here. Met a wonderful woman and was up front about my Ed. Nothing but support. She’s :100: satisfied with my oral and fingering. I sometimes bring a toy into play as well…. Taking P/V sex off the table sometimes is a blessing.

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I started a post on my Psychogenic Erectile Dysfunction journey with the Mojo app. I’m only on the second day here and have high hopes. I have been dealing with this for a couple of years and the frustration is just unreal.

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I’m having trouble getting out of my head! We have been together 2.5 years and before we was dating I had no issues but after we started dating as in we are a couple I started noticing that I was talking to my self in my head before sex and it’s been almost impossible to get the person in my head to shut the fuck up!

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Yes! I finally realized that other forms of sex, oral, fingering, toys - can take the pressure off of viewing sex as only dick in pussy, which often means I get a raging hard on while giving her pleasure in other ways, and then we can have traditional intercourse too. Last weekend I thought I was hard enough for penetration, but lost a bit of my erection in scrambling to get myself in position. Rather than let my brain bad mouth me and my performance, I went back to oral on her put her hand on my dick to stroke and got hard in no time. Climbed back on and went to town! I try to view sex as a multitude of activities, all of which are fun and pleasurable. Not the end of the world if intercourse doesn’t happen one particular time.

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Reading this forced me to think about how much I worry about disappointing my partner in bed. I think I need to talk to him about it properly. Thanks for the inspiration.

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Keep us posted on how it goes!

I have porn addiction issues and it is causing me to not perform in bed and also making me think during sex and i get soft and can’t perform. i want to stop with the porn addiction so i can satisfy myself and my partner