When i had just started dating my current girlfriend I had problems getting an erection right before penetration. I had no problems with erections during foreplay and making out but right before penetration I would go limp. I was so embarrassed and thought all these negative thoughts. I kept thinking she was going to leave me and tell people about my problem. But that wasn’t the case. She reassured me and made me feel safe. I told her how I really felt and it felt like a weight was lifted of my shoulders. It didn’t happen overnight but after a few failed attempts I finally was able to have sex multiple times. Overall I feel that if you are struggling with the same problem I had you just need to think of sex as a fun experience to connect with your partner. And also find a partner that you can truly connect with in the bed. Don’t put to much pressure on yourself and using the Box Breathing techniques during sex those actually help. I know those struggling with PED can overcome this. I did.
Thanks for sharing your story - I’m in precisely the same situation as you: new relationship, she’s very understanding and understands my PED issue. Can get hard during foreplay but as soon as I try to penetrate I go soft. I’m hoping that I can overcome the thoughts holding me back.
We’re both in our 50’s and strangely enough my ED is both a negative and a positive. It takes away the focus on penetrative sex so we can concentrate on each other. There’s no Wham Bam Thank you Mam and it’s over, instead we have a lot of fun over a much longer period which we both love.
Thanks for sharing!!
Same here. Met a wonderful woman and was up front about my Ed. Nothing but support. She’s 
satisfied with my oral and fingering. I sometimes bring a toy into play as well…. Taking P/V sex off the table sometimes is a blessing.
I started a post on my Psychogenic Erectile Dysfunction journey with the Mojo app. I’m only on the second day here and have high hopes. I have been dealing with this for a couple of years and the frustration is just unreal.
I’m having trouble getting out of my head! We have been together 2.5 years and before we was dating I had no issues but after we started dating as in we are a couple I started noticing that I was talking to my self in my head before sex and it’s been almost impossible to get the person in my head to shut the fuck up!
Yes! I finally realized that other forms of sex, oral, fingering, toys - can take the pressure off of viewing sex as only dick in pussy, which often means I get a raging hard on while giving her pleasure in other ways, and then we can have traditional intercourse too. Last weekend I thought I was hard enough for penetration, but lost a bit of my erection in scrambling to get myself in position. Rather than let my brain bad mouth me and my performance, I went back to oral on her put her hand on my dick to stroke and got hard in no time. Climbed back on and went to town! I try to view sex as a multitude of activities, all of which are fun and pleasurable. Not the end of the world if intercourse doesn’t happen one particular time.
Reading this forced me to think about how much I worry about disappointing my partner in bed. I think I need to talk to him about it properly. Thanks for the inspiration.
Keep us posted on how it goes!
I have porn addiction issues and it is causing me to not perform in bed and also making me think during sex and i get soft and can’t perform. i want to stop with the porn addiction so i can satisfy myself and my partner