Learn to fantasize and arouse myself without touching or external input such as porn
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Make eye contact on dates, tell them what I want to do to them playfully
Talk to my partner about simmering, I think we would have fun with it and get creative
Talk to my wife about simmering in order to get the mood swinging. We do live such hectic and stressful lives but what’s important is that connection for everlasting sex life
Planning to be more intentional and in the moment when I see her. If I kiss her, I’ll hold for a bit longer and truly enjoy the sensation of it instead of being in my head the whole time. I’ll also think about great sex with her more often. Looks like I should be doing it every hour to keep hot.
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My partner and I already do a lot of the listed simmering practices without realising, so I think we can potentially make the times we do them more intentional
Caring texts. Small touches. Cuddling on the couch. More intense eye contact. Hand holding.
Thinking about and noticing turn ons. Building those mental scenes
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I’m getting into a new maybe-relationship where we already do most of these things besides the texting, but I’m going to keep in mind that I should continue them throughout if it does turn into a relationship.
I like this idea of simmering. Definately going to start using this method. This may be the one thing that will turn my sex life around
More touches and sexting
I’ve just realised that my partner has been simmering with me throughout our relationship, but it seems I’m not reciprocating that. My plan is to notice his “simmers” and respond in kind, but also to enjoy more lengthy kisses, more subtle touching, and longer/deeper eye contact.
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Since i’m single right now i’m going to simmer by imagining things that turn me on. I feel like i should try and introduce simmering into this person i’m currently dating.
massaging, cuddling, sexting, imaging my sexual desires, thinking of a certain someone
Sending pictures of myself when I’m feeling good, wrapping my arm around her waist, telling her what I’ll do to her when I see her
Im single so i going to run the role play in my mind and then move into something else
Texting my partner that I’m excited to see them, sending a picture, building anticipation
message with suggestive plan of inspecting her new ikea bedroom furniture. Utilise the longer passionate kiss and touch when there.
Solo simmer with fantasy leading up to interaction
I was doing some of the single simmering ideas they suggested and I already felt an increase to my arousal. I am very hopeful for this moving forward
I have been simmering all along, did not know it had a name. Will concentrate on doing it more.