Trying to understand if fantasizing is recommended or not. This relates to the simmering activity, not fantasizing in the moment. I have a history of abusing porn, and apparently fantasizing uses similar neutral pathways as porn addiction that I’m trying to suppress. Furthermore, most of the advice is about staying present and in the moment, and fantasizing is the opposite
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Great question!
I kinda took it as visualize what you’d like to do. As in what you’d like to do for foreplay, how you transition to a bed or sofa, visualize having a strong erection, and penetration.
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have no problem with the gay story’s on here!
here so i guess it same !
I think the simmering activity works better with a partner where you interact and build the anticipation with each other and then you indulge. If you are struggling with porn and masturbation maybe try guided masturbation, mindful masturbation and self sensate to start being comfortable with being aroused without fantasising and porn, find other ways to get aroused and work on maintaining erections through those. This is what im trying.