How do you plan to simmer?

I’m single but I like the idea of thinking about a girl that I’m interested. Before going on a date, I like the idea of imagining my date’s aspects that turn me on. I think when I’ve gone on dates, I have not listened to my sexual desires. I should not be suppressing them, rather I should be paying attention

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I never knew there was a word for this. I do this with every partner… the passionate sex that comes out of it is incredible.

Once I’m comfortable and start simmering I have 0 performance anxiety.

I like non nude sexting

Telling her how sexy I think she is

Rub her feet with lotion at night while watching tv.

None

Text, big kiss and stroking her skin when watching tv

I have been doing this unintentionally by kissing stronger on greetings and farewells

Increasing the frequency and vividness of my sexual thoughts - imagining other sensations involved in a sexual encounter; smell, touch etc.

Little touches and messages

If in a relationship, both of you download Snapchat or some other seperate messaging app. Text messaging is only for everyday stuff but the other app is only for sexually charged or more romantic discussion and pictures. I’ll tell her randomly that I’m turned on and thinking about her then have her send me a sexy pic. Keeps the juices flowing

I feel like I already do simmer and she’s not always responsive. I need to be more intentional about it. Baths, just giving her attention that builds anticipation.

We seem to be doing some of these actions prior to learning the name for it. I guess it can’t hurt to put some intention behind it.

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I’ll be solo simmering for now, but I have crushes. Having vivid sexual thoughts about them and letting the imagination run wild will help me keep the libido up. Holding onto those imaginations and really putting myself in that scenario will help me.

My partner and I used to do this heavily and now realizing we’ve fallen into a comfortable rapport and are lacking a bit of that spark, I can’t wait to get back to it.

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I love this idea! I think I’ll try more physical touch - stroking his back, holding his hand, a hand on his leg at dinner. I’m often shy to initiate it, but I always want to. And when I do, I know he likes it and I like it too, and we go back and forth.

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Grab his butt when we kiss goodbye and tell him I can’t wait to clean him up teasingly

I like to pinch her backside when no one is looking

This is something I’ll need to do on my own.
My wife has told me that she isn’t interested in helping me with my sexual problems, because there’s nothing in it for her unless I can get it up.

Try and implement more things over text as between work and things we aren’t seeing each other much atm . She has a much higher sex drive than me so it would be nice to catch up a little