I joined 2-3 weeks ago. For me it was the soft penis pleasuring. Itās made a huge difference. I stopped worrying before sex, and have had sex 3 times in 7 days without an issue. My inner critic creeps up every now and again, but the constant thought is gone.
After the first time sleeping with my current partner (and failing to stay hard enough to penetrate or even come), I managed to penetrate the second time. It gave me a confidence boost that was immediately dashed after I came like 15 seconds later. Still, I keep telling myself itās progress.
Fairly new user to the app. Same story as many. Performance anxiety seems to be the issue. Pills helped for a while, but it clearly became an anxiety thing.
About a week in to mojoā¦ and things are going well. Still a way to goā¦ but the thing isā¦ I always looked forward to sexā¦ was excited by the thought of itā¦ then things went āPete tongā and I became less excited and more anxious and it lost the funā¦ but guysā¦. Itās backā¦. Okā¦ itās not perfectā¦ but Iām craving it again, looking forward to funā¦ bring it onā¦, keep the faithā¦ do the exercisesā¦ meditateā¦ breatheā¦ enjoyā¦ good luck out thereā¦.
Hearing other peoples success stories is giving me lots of hope. I feel like a lot of us on here are going through a rough patch but to see people come out the other side is giving me the motivation and assurance that this is just a bump in the road!
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My first experience with sex ended with me being mocked afterwards, with being a young 18 Year old at the time and knowing some of my peers had already had the experience at a younger age I felt as though I was left behind, inexperienced and overall bad at sex.
Now a 24 years old and still battling with my inner critic from that experience I find myself unable to stay hard during sex, I get hard perfectly fine but once foreplay is over and the action starts I find myself worrying about if my partner is feeling good, if I can stay hard, if I actually feel up to sex, if I can even do it right.
Iām hoping to learn how to handle these thoughts and manage these situations better through mojo
Men, donāt discount the benefits / value of proper hydration. Alcohol and excessive caffeine are especially good at dehydrating you. I donāt recall hydration being mentioned on this platform, but for me at least really concentrating on water intake and limiting alcohol and caffeine has made a noticeable difference. I used to almost never just drink water, but after just a week of drinking 64+ oz per day and cutting back, my erections are way better. Granted, Iāve been doing other stuff too - really focusing on activating my PSNS, getting enough quality sleep, and the activities from Mojo, but I think the deliberate water helps. To be thorough, I started taking Black Cava and Ashwaganda daily, so it could be a combined effect. Itās gonna sound weird, but I can see the blood vessels in my penis so much more clearly. It almost freaked me out. I had been taking Cialis occasionally and my assumption is that was helping overcome some physiological limitations. Proud to report Iāve not used it in several weeks and things ādownstairsā have been ALMOST perfect. Itās still a journey, but the cumulative work is working. Hopefully this helps others.
Just recently Iāve had an experience with my FWB where I was half hard and couldnāt stay hard even after receiving oral from her and we had sex plenty of times before then and I blamed the liquor at first but then I got all wrapped up in my physical state , and how maybe Iām unhealthy and something else is wrong. Fast forward two weeks later and I had the same issue again ā¦ā¦ Iām not sure where it comes from but Iām more than sure itās psychological at this point as I was worried the whole time about it happening again instead of just enjoying myself and being wrapped up in the sheets with her like weād usually be. After my first course on here and hearing about fight or flight and breed / feed it kind of makes sense but Iām just understating whatās making me pull back fight the feeling. Has anyone else had this happen?
My inner voice / thoughts and anxiety prevent me having any proper confidence with intimacy, I struggle to get it up with any new partner initially which stops me from wanting to try it with someone else new now
Iām newly dating the woman of my dreams. We had fooled around the first couple of dates but intentionally kept our distance which only built the sexual tension. Our next hangout resulted in us having the best sex of my life, but then a few days later after being out to dinner and having several drinks, we started to become intimate and once I realized we were going to have sex, I could no longer get erect. I think the alcohol played a role but I also think I had been on cloud 9 from the first time that I internally placed extra pressure the second time around. It was humiliating and I have not been able to stop thinking about it since.
First time I saw porn I was 5 then I started to jerk off and watch porn at 12 been doing it basically everyday. I was smoking weed for last 6 years everyday and thatās when I was my horniest to the point I was jerking off Multiple times on weekends up to 6 times. Recently I quit weed Then I lost the drive to watch porn and lost my sex drive for 40+ days last 2 weeks Iāve jerked off once and had a wet dream . Now Iām in a relationship and having an erection isnāt my problem itās the fact I think I desensitized my penis . I was getting a blow job for the first time I could barely feel it we went at it for an hour didnāt loose my erection but wasnāt able to Cum. I was stuck in my head afterwards so much self hate for myself and feel less of a man after this happened. Iām only 22 and having dick problems fucks me up mentally
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Iām quite a young male at just 19 , Iām experiencing that I can get hard pretty quickly from my partner touching and kissing , but am realising that I orgasm once and then can not get hard at all , itās not a lack of drive because I am wanting more in the moment and physically just am not able to I then have a mental block that just does not allow me to try what so ever . Is there anyone feeling the same ?
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Hi there
Iām new to this a 52 year old. Been with wife for 28 years, always had regular sex but life has battered me down. Anxiety, money issues, stress, issues at work, grief etc etc and gradually itās got worse. I have reduced libido but it was always high. I can climax without getting really hard even with half a pill. Iām not on viagra connect but maybe soon if blood pressure reduced a bit. I even had the electo shock therapy done at a good price and itās worse if anything. Itās depressing and that makes it worse.
Myself and my wife have been having issues in the bed room and intimacy for about 9 years. I have suffered with ED for 10 plus years. I am currently on tablets which are tadenafil which do work and are making experiences better but I feel I am stuck in a rut of doing it once a week in the bed room same routine because I know itās comfortable and it works. My wife is at the end of her tether and canāt deal with this much more. How do I get out of this rut? She expects me to I stigate everything from sex to Intimate touching. How do I make my sex life more exciting and get my mojo back which I believe I have lost
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Hi mate you sound exactly like me. Itās very difficult. I take it you want more often, but Iād settle for what you have right now
Yeah its so hard. My wife tells me there is nothing wrong with what we do but I know she is bored.im 39 and think why is this happening to me. If you donāt mind me asking how long have you suffered with it and how are you combatting it at the moment
Exactly as a younger man even at your age I could be stone hard at will. We werenāt at it all the time but regular. I guess itās been declining for say 5 years at least, maybe 7 tops at most So age 45.
I would pop the odd pill and needed a bit of manipulation. I tended to often opt for the same spooning position, not only is it intimate and cuddly and I always performed better this way. So occasionally if she was on too Iād loose it but only worse over last 2 years and awful this year. Life has got tougher and Iāve lost a lot and sex still is important to us and to you two mate Iām sure
Weāre not really combating it we donāt try often and when we do my wife isnāt to enthusiastic and I donāt get stiff and if I do I loose it. Itās like Iām nervous about it.
Yeah that sounds like the rut that I am in at the momentā¦I know she enjoys what we do but I know deep down she thinks itās boring doing the same thing all the time. But for me I know it works. And itās comfortable. I pop a pill every time because again itās something that I know gives me that extra confident boost which for me is important. My worry is as I get older itās only going to get worse and Iāll end up loosing her or she will seek it from someone else. But I just canāt seem to get my sex drive as regular as she wants it which I know is one of the big issues
Wow at least you have a wife thatās more up for it, mine would be happy once a week but the less often the more Iām out of practise so to speak. Then thereās popping pills and she doesnāt want it and you get side effects man.