My inner critic is my own voice talking me out of participating in encounters that have caused embarrassment in the past. This seems to be a reflex reaction at the moment when any thought or chance of intimacy arises with my partner. It creates a sense of panic and urgency meaning everything is forced and when the inevitable happens itās like a negative feedback loop. It plays on the fact that I donāt feel like Iām man enough if Iām having these issues which compounds the problem and makes it worse. I find that when the sex is planned or scripted it makes it worse as there is an element of expectation there that weighs heavy on me and the inner critic will of been providing plenty of negativity since the plans were in place which may of been hours previous. Spontaneous sex is better but not perfect for me. It provides a chance for the intimacy to be organic with no expectation which definitely helps but it is still causing issues.
I struggle to have anal sex with my partner. I struggle to stay hard (itās not that Iām not attracted to my partner - I am) itās because whenever I apply pressure on my penis when Iām hard, it goes soft so when I try to put it in (my partner also has a tight hole), I canāt put it in because when Iām pushing, my penis goes soft and it puts me off.
Whenever I masterbate by myself and watching porn, I can keep my erection fine, but when Iām with my partner, I struggle to stay erected. I have no idea why, its like I have anxiety being naked around others and the pressure to perform gets to me.
I joined mojo to try and work out why this is happening and to help reduce the porn and masterbation so I can have a healthier sexlife and lifestyle
Putting my ED into perspective using the Mojo resources have done a lot for my self confidence and my vocabulary. In the end, what has helped me most are the ways in which I speak to myself and with my partner. I currently have no ED issues. I just have a soft penis sometimes, and thatās perfectly normal. Thanks Mojo!
I donāt understand the reverse Kegel exercise. Is it just tensing (like a regular Kegel) and then relaxing? If so, how does this stretch the muscle? And whatās with that ādownward pressureā? Which direction is down? Thanks.
Iām finally in a relationship with a beautiful woman and this is the 1st relationship that I feel I can talk properly about my erection problems and she is nothing but supportive as she says that we are both in this.
Lately weāve been trying to have more sex as she has read somewhere that the more we do the better the situation will get. Iāve found that I have been lasting a bit longer and also staying a bit harder too. But after a couple of times itās back to the same old story. Im really starting to despair, itās really getting me down again and I feel myself pulling away from her in fear that Iāll lose her but know Iām doing it myself.
This app has been great for reducing anxiety outside of the bedroom as well.
I had my first successful sexual experience in 3 years! Prior to this Iād had one or two encounters where I couldnāt get an erection, and it was so demoralizing and embarrassing that I stopped trying to 2 years. But recently I decided to give it another shot, and after doing mojo for like a month, I went on a date that ended up at her place. I used box breathing and my inner coach when I felt anxiety creeping in, just telling myself that I COULD do it. I felt more present in the moment than I have in such a long time- it was incredible. I feel very grateful to this course
So I thought Iād give this a shot because I had nothing else to lose but I also wanted to know if anyone is in the same boat because Iām so confused about myself right now.
So to keep a long story short (kinda) I was in a relationship for 4 years and NEVER had a problem getting it up or having sex every day.
About 6 months ago we split and I had 8 sexual encounters and Iāve struggled to get it up almost every timeā¦ how can I go from having sex every day without any problems but as soon as Iām single and have multiple opportunities with these other woman Im struggling?
Any feedback or even just similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.
i went to urologist i many supplement drugs like tadalafil priligy but my body is not responding
Does this course really work
Iām 25 and going through the exact same issue. Literally the exact same thing. Never had issues with sex in my life until recently. Broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years and got with someone new 3-4 months after. First time having sex with her I couldnāt get an erection I guess from nerves. Next time with her there were no issues and we had sex multiple times over the next month or so with no issues. Fast forward I meet a new girl who I love. Dream girl if you will. We go to have sex and I canāt get an erection even though im extremely attracted to her. I tried multiple times to no success which is a terrible feeling. Finally one morning I woke up with morning wood and was able to get the job done for the first time (thank god). I still after this had issues with getting hard so I looked to get help. I was put on tadalafil through the app āhimsā which has helped me over the last 4 months. Randomly last week I started struggling again and now Iām back to square one. Iām beyond frustrated and just wanna be able to enjoy sex with my dream girl like I was. Im the moments leading up to having sex my mind is consumed with thought on not getting hard. I pleasure her and wait to get hard but it normally never happens. I just want to fix the issue but donāt know how.
i can get hard during foreplay but yet when time comes to penetrate i overthink and it causes me to not be able to perform
I had a similar experience. Dating for 4 years, had some ED issues with her but mostly fine. When we broke up I felt free to explore but whenever I got into bed with another woman Iād freeze up, feel numb, and go soft. This happened countless times.
Iām currently seeing a therapist and using Mojo to deal with my ED and other problems. I told my therapist that I had ED with new partners, but my long-term girl friend was not a problem. She responded with this wisdom: āIf itās only happening with newer girls that you donāt have a deeper connection with, your body can probably sense the lack of connection and is going into fight/flight.ā
After realizing that the root of the problem was a lack of connection I was annoyed because it meant I couldnāt just go have sex with whoever I wanted. As a young guy itās frustrating, but Iāve accepted that I only feel comfortable being intimate with a woman who really cares about me. And thatās okay. I donāt need endless casual sex even if it sounds enticing. Itās just not for me and my ED was my bodyās way of letting me know that. Hope this resonates with you, and even if it doesnāt I believe youāll get it all figured out. u got this brother.
Just got out of a 10 year relationship Iām 27 never had any issues until I met this girl who Im extremely attracted to in every way but lately having an issue with getting hard once Iām hard I have no issues itās just I get to in my head and canāt stay in the moment at times and lately overall just loss of sexual desire . Why am I not as horny as I used to be smh
Doing the wax and wane exercise struggle to get fully erect to complete the exercises so what is this supposed to do make you feel worse than before
Hey mate - definitely in a similar situation to you.
Even returning to that original partner and everything is fine again and Iām hard and stay hard.
Itās the anxieties and unknown with new partners for me. I found once I explained my concerns with one of the new partners and worked on getting to know them better my issues disappeared again.
They were understanding and enjoyed being pleasured even if I wasnāt and in the end I was becoming erect with ease.
I still struggle with it with new partners, but so much easier now Iām learning my triggers etc.
I get hard when my girlfriend touches me or does stuff I like but when the moment is to come for sex I go soft or go soft before it even happens even if I really want to down there doesnāt and thatās all I think about
I think the questions to gauge your progress are misleadingā¦ they are not always the same and i yave myself a lower score even though i feel much better about things! This happen to anyone else?
I have started to accept that sometimes I will lose my erection (which happens to everyone) during sex. This acceptance and internal normalization has allowed me to get an erection again when I and my partner want. This course has helped me become more comfortable with the concept of a soft penis during points of sex, and the kegel exercises and pelvic floor work outs have helped me to gain better voluntary control of my penis.
I do not understand what Iām supposed to do with reverse keels at all