A discussion about religion turned into a straight up shouting match. I think I felt frustrated and they felt self conscious. I think we both needed more respect, humility, and genuine curiosity.
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Sometimes she gets passive aggressive and talks in the third person. I wish people would rinse their wine glass.
they were frustrated i didn’t wanna talk and weaponized my insecurities against me. i could’ve de-escalated and made it better
Uneasy and sometimes I need reassurance
My wife is indifferent to my needs. So I give up.
Happy wife, happy life.
He was made at choices he made in his life and criticized many small things about me.
I would get annoyed when I got interrupted but she believed I was done talking. It caused a major issue with us.
I just need her help around the house. And I feel like I’m doing everything
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My partner felt that I’d made a series of snippy comments asking her not to repeat herself, and that meant she had to second guess what she was saying and she got upset.
In retrospect, I was feeling defensive because I felt that the repetition was an attempt to elicit a stronger reaction from me, like my responses were on trial and I had to prove myself to be enthusiastic enough or happy enough or confident enough. I needed to know that she feels I’m enough as I am.
In retrospect, she probably felt shut down because she felt my comments indicated that I was bored of talking to her and not interested in what she had to say. She needed to know that I love talking to her about whatever is on her mind.
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My fiancée was feeling alone because not only was I not initiating sex I also was not discussing our lack of sex and she felt like it was not a concern to me, it was a concern I just never voiced it so we never spoke about it, communication is key
My wife had lied to me about someone making a pass on her while she was out doing one of her weekly activities. She lied to me about it because she felt like I am too controlling and would give her a hard time about going out without me anymore. In the end, she just needed to feel like she wasn’t being controlled all the time and I just needed to feel like she will be open and honest with me about situations like that.
With my current girlfriend I never argue tbh. But with my ex she always tried starting arguments with me to try make me feel jealous. I understand now that it was a way of her being self conscious with herself, and her feeling and need of me being jealous was to make her feel wanted I suppose.
Not experiencing this now but I argued a lot with my ex.
She was very insecure and needy, which meant I was accused of not showing I care a lot despite being in constant contact, continuing to spend quality time, and giving gestures (flowers etc.). Where I made mistakes was telling her what I had done recently to make her feel loved instead of trying to get to the bottom of ‘what have I done right now to make you feel like this?’.
In future, I’m going to aim to approach conflict with this mentality of being curious rather than defensive - easier said than done when women can be very dramatic and emotional but I think it’s about maintaining composure and ‘weathering the storm’
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