Anyone in alternative (non-monogamous) lifestyle e.g. polyamory, swinging, BDSM, hotwife etc?

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A couple of us who met in a Live Mojo Connect meeting discovered we shared a common interest in alternative lifestyles (ethical non-monogamy, bdsm, Hotwife, etc). Later on, we had a private Zoom session and discovered we shared issues and concerns related to the lifestyle that were not a factor in monogamous relationships. We then thought there are likely to be other members like us who might be interested in forming a sub-group where we could share experiences in a frank and open manner without offending others.

The group would be for those involved and not those simply curious. The curious would gain no benefit at all, as the focus is ED not lifestyle, and the extent to which the nature of the lifestyle contributes to ED. You would need to be in the lifestyle and experiencing ED to be in sync with the group.

If you are interested can you please comment and either tag me @tough-gray-mule or @relaxed-maroon-fox

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If you are interested I will share my email in a private message to send you a zoom invite. Tough Gray Mule and I connected in a zoom meeting and in a lifestyle website as well. Support is important. What is your experience? What works for you? What Mojo techniques do you find helpful, what do you want support for, etc.

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I would be interested. Same problem here - with wife I have zero problems. When swinging - ugghh

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@tough-gray-mule
@relaxed-maroon-fox

I’d be equally interested. I’m ENM & Poly. Never had any issues with my live-in partner, but since we opened up our relationship around 2 years ago, there have been occasional issues when seeing other people.

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Hi Catfish, I will send you a private message with info on joining

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I see this is an older thread, but I am interested as well. Feel free to message me.

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Id like to join
@relaxed-maroon-fox @tough-gray-mule

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Hi,

DM me your email address and I’ll add you to the list.

Cheers
Patrick

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Hi,

DM me your email address and I’ll add you to the list.

Cheers
Patrick

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Would like to join this group too.

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You will need to DM me your email address for me to send you an invite
Patrick

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I’d like to join too please

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I have recently stopped hosting these sessions, as only a few showed up, hardly any of whom were the people from here that asked to join

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Please know that I am no longer hosting these sessions. Guys asked to be invited and then never showed up and so I have given up on the idea

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That’s a shame as only just seen the thread

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Yeh a pity ! I’m finding my anxiety and ocd very hard to manage with my poly girlfriend and wife lately and it’s really embarrassing and making me anxious as hell (it’s been a rocky road opening up and my wife is out on a date right now ) both my wife and girlfriend are so supportive but I’m sick using pills and even they don’t always work if I’m anxious . Anyone else poly or ENM who would want to chat I’m down

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@tough-gray-mule Definitely interested! Thank you for making this thread! I wasn’t sure if there were others speaking about these issues on here. Currently in an open poly relationship with my partner of 8 years. Been open for the last year and experiencing these problems.

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I guess just have the discussion here. I’m new here and this is my first post. Been with wife 30+ years, opened things up about 7/8 years ago. Was having ED issues back then but it was inconsistent. That said, I found playing at swinger parties sometimes easier with strangers than when it was just the two of us. Though watching her play was a big turn on and the erections were like old times. :joy: Once we stopped going to the parties and became more poly, I initially found it difficult with new but steady partners. Then it switched and it became tougher at home, then with the others. Now it’s tough at home and with a new partner. I tried the different pills early on but they all gave me headaches. Sounds like I might have found the place to help me.

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I’d like to join, wife and I are poly

@tough-gray-mule

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This is :100: me as well. Half the time when we’re playing with others absolutely nothing. I’ve tried everything from high doses of cialis to viagra, no help whatsoever which is what tells me it’s definitely psychological.

I would really love to find a solution. My spouse has been great about it and so have most of the female partners. Luckily we’re more into FWB so there’s sometimes performance redemption. Still doesn’t overcome the extreme feeling of failure when it happens, or should I say, doesn’t happen :person_facepalming: