Anyone in alternative (non-monogamous) lifestyle e.g. polyamory, swinging, BDSM, hotwife etc?

I’d like to join @tough-gray-mule

I am new to this it seems I have no/to little issues with my wife, but when it comes to outside the relationship issues I do lol. I have had opportunities outside our relationship and have struggled. The relationship is not open so there’s the rub I guess, but my wife isn’t really into to sex after menopause and I have offers from other women. I’m assuming it’s guilt or confidence issues which I have never experienced before. I apologize if this is the wrong forum for this but I’m hoping for any information or incite I can get. Thanks in advance