Over the last 6 months, I’ve completely lost my sex drive which I’ve always had. My penis feel dead/numb most of the time. I don’t know if this is stress related or maybe I injured it at some point. It’s affecting me dating and my anxiety is only getting worse which only exacerbates the issue. I really struggle to get it up without pills. Any advice guys I really need help?
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I’m the exact same, I think mine was definitely stress related as I was going through a solo house move, break up and job change all at the same time… but now all those things have gone and I’m with a new girl but don’t have a sex drive which in turns means I struggle with ED sometimes, I’d say it’s stress because I still wake up with an erection
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I recently went to a general doctor’s exam and asked about low testosterone levels, I wanted to get an exam, but he said that unless I was having like zero sex drive, he wouldn’t spend money on the exam. I do have sex drive, so I didn’t get it, besides, I exercise regularly, specifically weight lifting, which is supposed to help with testosterone. So, maybe get your testosterone checked, that’s one main reason for low sex drive.
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Go to a urologist and ask for low T blood test
Stress related for sure! I felt exactly the same as you, while going through a divorce! The massive cortisol levels made it impossible to get hard/ and in turn complete lack of labido! I mean none!!! One i had experienced one failed sexual encounter-this just spiralled into a big loop of stuck in my head what ifs!!! For me it’s the anxiety- which killed labido! It’s taken me 2 years of self care/ and just go with it attitude and I feel I’m coming out the other side! Same with you! Just accept this is temporary! It will be back! I assure you!
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I absolutely advise getting a total and free testosterone level. As a physician I see this all the time in my office. It can be treated
I got bloodwork done and my testosterone levels are good, higher than normal in fact…so I’m guessing it must be anxiety related? Any advice on how to fix this? I’m looking at working out, healthy diet & meditation but any other options? Much appreciated fellas
I’m in a similar situation got my test levels checked seems normal. If you ever have taken any anti depressants recently sometimes those can cause lingering side effects or it could be mental. Regardless I have the exact issues and I feel it may all be mental
Sounds like an anxiety thing to me. I’m mid divorce after my partner cheated on me, plus I have a job that I hate. Zero erections are the result. I’ve taken up daily exercise and am hoping my erections return when I’m finally in a better state of mind. Good luck.
How old are you? Age really takes a toll on libido IMHO. I’m 66 and my libido is zilch. I just posted here asking about supplements and if anyone had success with any. I haven’t. Thanks
My wife also cheated on me and I was in a job I hated for years. I’m now happily remarried and have a new job by the grace of God. I’m on here because I’m recognizing that there was a lot of hidden damage from my ex cheating that has been affecting me sexually. Life does get better. Hang in there brother.
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What if total/free T looks good? What do you normally look at next and how do you treat it?
Based on your comment I’m assuming you’re a Christian. do you struggle with this app lining up with your Christian values? One of the things that I am struggling with.
I am a Christian. I also don’t agree with all the values posed here. For example, the therapy sessions with Silva, he believes that porn is ok and to use it as a treat. That makes sense from a secular perspective. For me, I struggled with pornography when I was first exposed to around late elementary school into middle school. And I still have issues with it from time to time now. And part of the exercise for me with this app is trying to figure out if pornography is partially responsible because I’ve been so desensitized to normal sexual response with my wife vs instant gratification via porn.
That said I don’t want to discount everything in the app, because there are a lot of good aspects. Erectile dysfunction isn’t something you can easily talk about, even with close friends. So I am glad this app even exists. I haven’t seen results that have been meaningful yet after 3 weeks, but I’m going to keep going and am becoming more aware of when I am in fight or flight and having negative thoughts.
In my previous marriage, I had sex maybe once a month, and I was younger back then. So I didn’t really struggle with erections because I just didn’t have sex that often to notice it I think. But being cheated on really messed me up mentally and emotionally, and so that’s part of this healing journey for me as well.