Hi guys just a quick oneā¦ I feel like these days I have zero libido at allā¦ I want to have sex but its like my body is just not feeling it the same. Ive got ed issues 99.9% certain psychological, had tests etc at the doctor and everything checks out and I know im too much in my head, I worry about sexs days before the event and without fail results in being unable to be focus on anything else other than getting it up.
But what Im wondering is could the ed/mental side of this be whats caused my libido to go or could the erection issues be stemming from having no libido?
Any help would be appreciated.
And for what its worth im 33, dont drink, never smoked, im fit and healthy, gym 3-5 times per weekā¦ granted could do more cardio though, testosterone levels came back very high, can get hard on my own but sometimes have issues getting fully rock solid and I think its because im only doing it to ātestā myself and see that I can still infact get hardā¦
Ive started seeing a new girl and its the first one in 2 years that I really have feelings for and can see a future with her but im terrified these issues are going to ruin it for me.
I can absolutely relate to thisā¦very similar for me. While not an exact diagnosis I think it may be part of the fight or flight response and the mind to some extent suppressing the sex drive.
Iāve had a few situations where Iāve gone soft during sex, and now while in my mind I have a high sex drive my libido feels low, but logically my bodies natural response to avoid getting in to a situation where I go soft again and become embarrassed is to prevent me getting into that situation In the first place.
Potentially retraining our bodies to become comfortable with being in that situation and not seeing it as a threat will then help to unlock the libido again.
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