Hey guys, I’m 24 with no prior medical history that would be a cause for erection problems. I get morning wood just about every day and can masturbate just fine. However the last two times I’ve had sex with my gf of 3 years I went soft mid-sex. It’s happened before after a night out or an exhausting day but this time after it happened the first time I have not been able to shake the thought out of my head. So the next time we had sex I was thinking about it all day of what if I lose my erection again? And now instead of being the usual excited one to have sex now I just dread it or find an excuse that I’m tired because I’m ashamed. I am going to refrain from porn or masturnating but I had to make sure nothing was going on and I climaxed just fine. Just looking for advice on anyone this has happened too and what you did to over come it? I have thought about a blue chew just to gain my confidence back
I’ve had almost the same exact experience, and when you begin to realize that these things happen sometimes and that there’s nothing wrong with you or your body, that’s when it starts to have less power over you. Being open about these feelings with you partner is crucial too, so that they don’t get offended, but rather help you work through your set backs together. Taking a blew chew isn’t a bad idea to give you some more confidence the first couple of times back, but deep down you’ve just gotta know you don’t even need it and you’ll be just fine. Just takes time:)
I’m currently going through the exact same thing, it absolutely shakers my confidence and has taken the fun away from sex.
I am working on myself to get back in the moment and enjoying sex as much as I used to
I’ve had similar moments. If you’re exhausted or stressed, it’s gonna be more difficult to get hard. A night of no sleep or a chaotic day might take the wind out of your sails. At the beginning of my ed issues, I was traveling without sleep and I was so embarrassed I couldn’t stay hard for a hook up I had planned.
I’m in the exact same boat, also 24. Less time with the girlfriend but same issues for me. I’m trying the same things also. Here’s hoping it helps us!