Over the past two months I have been struggling to get an erection when I am about to have sex with my girlfriend. This randomly occurred one day and it’s been a struggle off and on recently. I used to have ED problems when I first started having sex around 16 but then they went away and I hadn’t had any issues until about 2 months ago. It has become a very big issue for me and I am struggling to find answers, I am 21 years old and consider myself to be healthy because I exercise regularly and eat healthy. I am not sure why it all of a sudden started happening because I hadn’t made any lifestyle changes.
24 and healthy here, same issue. First time it happened was probably after my first 5 year relationship and I was going to hook up with the 2nd person ever had post break-up. Needless to say that didn’t go well. Fast forward 2 years later and I probably had that issue of losing an erection or not getting hard just a handful of encounters. The root cause for it always was when I thought about losing my erection or “what if I go soft” and boom it happens. I’ve been with my GF for 2.5 years now and this has happened 0 times the 1st year, 1-2 times the second year, and 2 times the most recent back-to-back attempts which kinda tells you all you need to know about where my confidence is right now.
My two cents to distract your mind as much as possible from that thought & also realize that you have 0 reason you would lose an erection medically and that you’re only losing it because you’re telling yourself you will. This app helped me gain confidence back. A few years back when it first occurred. Follow the steps and listen to all of the inner critic because more than likely, that is your issue. Also, don’t just think about having sex with her all day before you see her and if you’ll stay hard. That will send you down a bad path. Be more relaxed, add in some more foreplay & enjoy being in the moment. Past experiences are not future expectations. If you have no issue getting a boner anytime throughout the day or getting off to porn or nudes you have no physical problem and it is all in your mind telling you you can’t do it. Yo I know you can do it and it’s just your inner critic talking to you, go listen up on that and you will feel in a much better spot I promise you. Goodluck Mate
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