I have been with my girlfriend for about 7 months and at the start we were having great sex like 2-3 times a visit now we are around each other more often is started as every once in a while I would lose my erection while trying to penetrate, now it’s everytime we try to have sex or if we are kissing and I can tell she wants to have sex my chest tightens and I get a shortness of breath and sometimes my heart races out of control and I lose my erection. It’s really killing the mood and I can see it on her face everytime how disappointed she is and she even tells me it’s makes her feel gross
Sounds like anxiety. (PED)
Likely in your head about not getting it up and it’s dominating your psyche.
Your inner critic is blowing holes in your confidence. Mine did the same thing. I have PED, death grip and then some…. What has helped me is: I had many conversations with my new gf regarding me ped. She’s totally on board.
I have gotten pretty good orally and with my hands (and an occasional toy…) she usually gets off 3-4 times before my boxers come off. The fact that I got her to finish several times weatherstrip or not my dick is cooperating, gives me more confidence and allows my dick to work better….
Your mileage may vary…
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Yep, very familiar.
All in ur head bro!
I’m the exact same.
If I go to a girls house and I know we’re NOT having sex….im relaxed, chilled and get a hard on still…sometimes just from talking.
If I know sex is on the cards…something comes over me.
Sometimes I get the physical shakes!
After an hour of a raised heartbeat, I feel like I’ve ran a marathon!
I wonder why that is?? same deal lots of great sex for months then something started to come over me and it’s a viscous spiral and then I ponder on it most the day wondering where that old me went just horny and relaxed 24/7 we will get back there guys !