About 2 months ago, I started to notice some signs of ED. The first noticeable sign appeared as a loss of erection between foreplay and intercourse. After a little extra stimulation, the erection returned. I brushed it off as just “being tired”, but that had never happened before. A few days later, the same issue occurred. Now, it has become the norm. I’m constantly thinking about the possibility of performance issues during intercourse. While I may be able to attain an initial erection, it disappears nearly as fast. Most of the time I am able to struggle through, but not nearly as hard as it should be. The morning erection has also disappeared on most days. I’m stuck in my own head. My confidence and self esteem have plummeted. I am a 47 yo straight, married to a woman I consider the most beautiful girl in the world. Attraction and desire are not an issue, however achieving and maintaining erection seem to be getting more difficult by the day…
I’ve been where you are and still have lots of work to do. I found that for my confidence (aka head case) issues the soft penis and wax and wane activities are awesome. It was slow going at first, but I’m much better. When having sex, try just focusing on you and your pleasure. I talked with my wife of over 30 years who I also think is the hottest woman and she’s been supportive of the idea that sex is sex no matter what the ends up looking like. It’s helped me to take some pressure off and focus on enjoying what I’m feeling (and not obsessing as much about how hard I am). It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s actually helped a lot. Hang in there! I’m over 90 days in on here and things have improved a lot. There are ups and downs, but you’ll get better!