Couldnāt get hard today
For story context, (20m) I had sex 2 days ago w my gf for the first time in about 2 weeks, I came relatively fast and that left me feeling pretty shitty about myself even tho sheās not one for long sex and prefers if I finish faster but I started over thinking big time anyway as I feel like I wasnāt pleasing her, so for the next day or 2 I was reading and doing research all about how to stop PE and ways around it (non stop), well this morning I woke up off around 5 hours of sleep and I noticed I didnāt have morning wood, started to get stressed out that oh no now I had ED and did all the ED research I could, it says being tired can play a role but itās stressing me out, I was able to jerk off all last week to full erection then have sex on the weekend with great errection, then today I tried to jerk off and struggled to get hard , took a while was able to get semi hard it wouldnāt go full erect like Iām used too, this is the starting to weigh on me a lot bc I donāt want to have ED especially since I have a gf but I feel the more I stress the more Iām putting it in my head , the more it can come true?
Someone help Iām losing my mind
2 Likes
Hey man, thank you for sharing your story, I am a 21m and I have been having similar issues, but only when I am with a girl. The reason you are struggling to get hard even when alone is that you are overthinking it too much. Being too much in your head and worrying about something that happened once led you now to think all of a sudden you have ED and its terrifying right? My advice is to take a step back, reflect on why are you feeling this way, try to understand that it is completely normal and that it can change with the right approach. What I found helpful was going through this apps meditation activities as well as talks about spectatoring. Now I have a clearer picture in my mind that it is all in my head and the only one thats sabotaging my erections is me. I havenāt had an opportunity to see my results with a partner yet, but when I am alone and completely relaxed not worrying about getting hard, I get great erections. It is easier said than done, but you have to relax about it and avoid stressing, rather try to understand it and approach it mindfully. I wish you all the best, sorry for the yapping!
1 Like
Hey man, your right Iām definitely in my own head but the more I try to get out of it the deeper in I get, I have a doctor appointment later today at 1 , do you think thatās a good idea? Iām worried they might say I have something wrong and itāll make me more stressed even tho it might all be in my head? Iām over thinking heavily bro
How did the appointment go first of all? From my point of view the natural road of conquering that sexual anxiety is at the beginning feeling like you are just making it worse by thinking too much about it. I feel the same way, its like all the things you are trying to work on just cause more stress. However, I am sure it is worth it, it is a process like any other and it will not be solved in a week. My most sincere advice is to maybe try and start a psychotherapy? I am 2 sessions of psychotherapy deep now, and the open vulnerable communication has helped me understand a lot of stuff that led up to ED problem but also other parts of my life that I did not realize I have a problem with. Anyways, if therapy is not an option, then again I advise you to take it slow, give it time, try to understand it and take it for what it is. I believe in you man, stop stressing so much and do not give up! (btw, regularly use the app, it has very nice activities and explanations)
Hey man how did it end up going? Iām in a similar boat as you. Thanks for sharing by the way!