warning fairly sexually graphic
Hi all, in my performance anxiety journey, I just want to share what I’ve learned. With an understanding partner, you can have the most amazing sex of your life WITH performance anxiety whilst you work on your issues with Mojo. When I first discovered I had performance anxiety (causing ED) I felt so depressed I honestly was in an incredibly dark place, and felt like a loser (although I’m not - performance anxiety is very normal for some guys it seems - Mojo has taught me). My GF was very understanding and says she doesn’t care and wants to do other things in the meantime whilst I work on it. She says she can wait for me to penetrate her sometimes in the future and is looking forward to it but she is really satisfied every time he do have sex (even when I have the anxiety still). We make out for an hour, we cuddle and hump skin on skin, I go down on her, it’s the most passionate sex I’ve ever had because it’s not just penis in vagina and we focus on each other and bodily sensations. I am not at a point where I can masturbate with her at the end and finish, one step at a time. I truly hope this gives others hope - we all can do this - I know how much this means to you all. Sex is important in a relationship.
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Oops - sorry typo (I wish editing was possible), I meant to say “I am NOW at a point where I can masturbate and finish with her at the end of our sexual encounters”
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That’s great man!!!
My gf is super supportive. I’ve decided I’m going to be great at what I can do.
I love going down on her, she loves it and my fingers too! Even without a reliably working dick, I get told I’m the most passionate she’s ever had. I think I’ve been fapping to porn for far too long. I need to desensitize myself to porn and my own grip…
The other am while fooling around, she was almost able to finish me with her hand. At that point, I realized, I coulda finished myself…. Yep- I gotta make some changes…
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That’s awesome that your girlfriend is really supportive! Yeah I know where you are coming from re the porn and deeply regret ever fapping now. I have ceased all porn 4 weeks ago, and fapping for a week now (I only masturbate with my girlfriend but really want to work up to normal penetrative sex with her). I have now tried to practice solo once per week (I see her on the weekends) with a rubber vagina sex toy when we are not together and simulate real Sex with it whilst thinking about her. I don’t move my hand but brace it and move my hips like real life. It was actually really hard to finish with it (tonight was the first time because I am used to the hand, but it was a step in the right direction.
Good luck with it my friend!
I wish editing was possible, I meant to say that I deeply regret ever fapping now