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Hi!
Im enjoying the course so far. Although i haven’t seen any actual improvement, the testimonials give me a bit of faith. I thought I’d tell my atory and see if i can get any tailored advice.
Im 44, married with 2 kids.
Growing up in my teens, i was petrified of rejection. As a result i never, just physically could never make an advance towards a girl. I’m a big guy, fully grown to 6 ft 8 by the age of 15. Obviously stand out in a crowd. The anxiety I’d get from the fear of rejection meant that my sex life didnt start till 20. First kiss and first attempt at sex on the same night. Never even looked like getting hard. Horrible. All my worst nightmares. I was at college at the time and word got out about my lack of performance.
I’ve never felt humiliation like it. Well, not at that point anyway. Several other one night stand attempts and several other failures. At 22 i met a girl and we fell hard for each other young love. Intense and fantastic. She quickly got tired of my soft penis and moved on to my flatmates. All of them actually, at once. I walked in on this. It still effects me.
Over the next couple of years, several more attempts. Some glimmers of performance. Penetration but not for long. A few blowjobs where i managed to stay the distance. I used this to find ways to pleasure a woman without penetration. Im pretty good at this, so im told. I met my wife 20 years ago and we fell for each other quickly. She had and has very little sex drive. I liked this at the beginning as there was no pressure. The conception of our kids was clinical and stressful and thankfully, we conceived first try with both. But i struggle a lot with her lack of drive now. I do have a sex drive, a very high sex drive. I just cant do anything about it. I watch porn, always have done. I struggle to climax wothout it, but am getting better at this. I chat online, (my wife knows about some of it). This was like kryptonite with me. No chance of disapointing anyone.
I take pills to get hard. They work, when masturbating but not in a real sexual situation. I struggle to get hard at all without them. Ive been taking them regularly for 5 years.
Im 44 and have not had a fully positive sexual experience in my life. My wife knows about Mojo and is very open to a sexlife if i can perform. She takes my soft penis very personaly even though I’ve explained many many times that its got nothing to do with how i feel about her. Its not her fault, its mine. I’m hoping and praying that this works.
Thanks for listening.