When I first lost my virginity with my girlfriend at 17 I was nervous and struggled to get it up, I managed in the end but it held in my mind. I’m now 20 and though I have been with quite a few people since then it still resides with me. Around 50% of the time I worry so much about whether I will get hard or if she’s enjoying herself that I end up now getting it up or it going soft inside. I’m currently travelling Australia and work in a hostel bar so girls are often throwing themselves at me but I find myself finding excuses at the last moment as I worry so much about satisfying them. I’m aware the issue is anxiety and I know exactly where it stems from, I just wish there was a switch in my brain I could turn off so I could start enjoying sex for myself and the partners as a pose to just focusing on my performance.
hey mate, I’m in a similar situation as you. 22 and been struggling with performance anxiety my whole life. Since I split with my first girlfriend a few years ago I’ve been with many partners, yet only a small amount have been enjoyable as my performance anxiety has now just transferred into my sex life. I struggle getting it up, and always finish extremely quick when I do get it up, which then plays with my mind and confidence in a feedback loop from hell. It means that I now avoid sex - I barely slept with anyone on my whole 7 month overseas exchange recently, just continuously making excuses. I’ve been doing Mojo for a few weeks now and can see improvements in my mind already, which is slowly building my confidence. I’m still yet to have sex since starting - but I have faith in this program and believe we can do this. We’re all in this together brother - you’re not alone. I wish you all the best
same here chief. 24 and split up with my partner 6 months ago. not one to sleep round but i feel like I want to try something different. been doing the exercises but the break destroyed me. always been a confident lad. any pointers on how to remove this performance anxiety? ive never had it before, only recently.
so far I’ve been using the inner coach exercise along with breathing whenever I have negative thoughts about sex, and it helps me calm down and remember its going to be okay. The exercises on here seem to be working in my mind. Not yet sure if they’ll work under the covers, but I guess time will tell. All the best brother - you got this.