So, I haven’t been here in a while. I’ve been feeling really confident and my girlfriend and I have been having a TON of intense sex all the time. I have had no issues for months now… and then.
Today I got back from the gym. We started kissing and it started getting hot. We decided to get it on, then as soon as we were naked… it just went away. I tried breathing, taking it slow focusing on her. It was just gone.
We had just had wild sex yesterday and this morning, and I had just hit the gym hard, so maybe I just needed rest a rest, but I feel completely worthless right now. I’m petrified that it’s going to keep happening now after not happening in so long.
Any advice?
You just had sex this morning. Give yourself a break, brother.
Take solace in the facts, your boner was working fine yesterday and this morning. There’s refractory period to consider. There may be less refractory period if you haven’t cum in a while. But if you’re cumming a lot days on end, it likely will affect the refractory period to get longer and longer before your dick is ready to get hard again.
Also, you just worked out. Sometimes, going to the gym gives you extra energy for play activities when you get home, but sometimes the opposite being wiped out. Feeling of fatigue needs not be merely physical, also, the mind can equally feel fatigued though the body is fine.
If you weren’t necessarily tired after the gym and all the recent sex, if you really felt like getting sexy with your partner and your desire was up, but for reasons likely due to refractory period mentioned above, your erection seemed not responsive, try exploring non hetero-normative sex. It should be understood good sex doesn’t have to revolve around the erection and penetration necessarily. Not every sexy fun time needs to feature penetration, etc. This may seem like besides the point if you’ve been programmed so much that sex requires penetration, and everything else is foreplay, but I’m telling you there’s so much more to sex than merely the penetration part. Don’t know if I’m preaching to the choir. If your girlfriend wanted to cum, make her cum other ways, most women love oral, so just get into a full on worship mode when your erection isn’t up to task.
Seriously, bro. Your erection just was working days on end until this morning. You’ve been feeling confident. Don’t make one time of a non cooperative dick break your confidence. You are a sexual beast, and your girlfriend wants you. Believe the facts, brother. Don’t let self doubt break your confidence. It’s totally normal for your dick to need a rest sometimes. We’re not machines.
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agree. There’s more to sex than penetration!
For a month or so with current gf we did not do anything penetrating (other than fingers…) while we waited for her to get tested. (I was and has a vasectomy years ago) having no expectations of penetration was freeing. I could get creative. I worshiped her head to sexy little toes. I found lots of spots she likes kissed, sucked or stroked…. When we do go for penetration and I can’t finish Or can only get 60-70% hard and it only lasts a short time- she always says she’s satisfied with the 3 or 4 Os that she had during foreplay and penetration is just sugar on top!
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Question for you brother. Do you ever find that getting your gf to cum hard through oral and all, sometimes this wipes her out so much that she doesn’t have energy for penetration after that?
This happens with my gf. It can be frustrating, because she’ll have little energy to be involved with me as I at least try to get myself to cum with fapping. Like, she can’t check out, I won’t be excited, I hope she can be involved in some way like able to play with herself or kissing me or something.
Elaborate,
YES!!
That has happened. Shell get off 3-4 times then I’ll cuddle her till she calms down then I decide weather I’mma try to get her to go down, a handy or try penetration…
She OFTEN is super drowsy and doses off stroking me…At that point I just hug her and we go to sleep. She’s really good about getting me back in the morning! She even goes down on me if I’ve been inside her or I have lube (Wu Coconut Lube) on myself! In 6 months I’ve cum 1 time from her touch… (frustrating as hell, but that’s death grip for ya…)
If you’ve just trained very hard your body will be working to get blood to muscles, not your penis. Your iron resources etc. are most likely being used. Take it easy on yourself man. You just had great sex! Don’t let your inner critic take you back into a dark place because of one fuck up hahađź¤